(2 month old drama) r/stoicism mod goes against stoicism and tags a depressed redditor's rant as hate speech for using "kitty"

this was drama i found from before i entered the dramaverse, a redditor was upset with his life so he ranted on /r/stoicism

I have been working for Indian Multinational Companies for 13 years. During these time, my life has been a total mess. I get cheated by my colleagues and my girlfriends. I have changed 4 companies till now and I have been bullied by managers everytime from this companies. I can't afford to resign from jobs because I am a complete kitty. I can't go against my parents who are opposed to it. I am 35 years old and still I need others validation to resign. I am a moron with no self respect. Till now. everyone has been abusive to me. My ex girlfriends who cheated me by spending away my savings with her new boyfriend, managers and colleagues from all the companies I worked for abused me . I even got cheated of 2000 dollars from a mentally deranged guy. I am such a fool that even deranged people dares to bully and cheat me off my money. Dear Stoics, how can I bring my life back to normal, I am such a pushover, How do I survive in these dog eat dog world?

he used the word kitty in the title so the mod did an average redditor and tagged it hate speech

I apologize, but I am adding the Hate Speech tag to this post because of the post title's use of misogynistic language. I will not remove it, as I think you do need advice to help you through this time. But please be more mindful of that in the future.

subreddit members get pissed off because getting emotionally affected by a word kitty goes again stoicism itself apparently

edit: googled the definition which makes what the mod did even more lol - The word "stoic" commonly refers to someone who is indifferent to pain, pleasure, grief, or joy.

"Kitty" has nothing to do with vaginas nor misogyny. But since that's your (incorrect) interpretation, can we expect to see the "hate speech" tag applied to any post calling anyone a "peepee", as well?

This is the core issue with mentalities like yours - you deal in absolutes. You make up your mind about one thing and are so sure of yourself, that everyone must then think exactly like you and the world must change in the way you want it to, because you are absolutely right - to the point of labelling an innocent post like this 'hate speech.' Is saying "he was being a real peepee!" sexist towards men? Will you also label posts that contain that word/phrase 'hate speech' or will you not? You're absolutely free to believe what you want to and I know you are most likely coming from a good place - but this type of virtue signalling on a post like this, in a subreddit like this, and being so certain of yourself for it, means there will be a certain level of disagreement with you. I hope you're willing to at least take a fraction of it on board.

janny tries to defend their use of wikipedia as a source for their argument

However, I will defend my position and will definitely continue to use Wikipedia as a source for defenses despite what some people may say is bias. It is unfortunately the best online aggregator of information and is typically well-sourced (especially regarding more academic topics).

my first thought was the same as this redditor, imagine being suicidal and posting a rant for it to be called hate speech lol

Imagine calling the suicide hotline and the person on the other side said: woah there buddy, cool it with the hate speech. This is a highly inappropriate action by the mod and really, really tone deaf. That could be enough to push someone over the edge.

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