if you haven't disappointed a body for one night, you're not ready to disappoint a body long term

that said, if you're a virgin, waiting until marriage is credible.

I've been crunching some numbers because the degree to which political time is cyclical is still sending these aftershocks through my mind.

I've said before, often, that in the 90s there was a PC scare. A woke moral panic: a moral panic about wokes. (The scary really awful bad thing is that every belief system has its panics, and satanic panic is far more frightening than the hullaballoo about which words we use which is an eternal battle.

And so we return to body count.

Not even the Red Pill was new. In my day the informal s*x ed on the nature of women and their actual sexual preferences was 'ladder theory' and it was honestly better than the red pill. People still took it too far, but the general notion that women have two columns they put their male peers in: friends and dating, and you must simply exist in the second column and if you don't know how to do that, you just aren't a man, sorry!

But it can be learned.

I'll spoiler it for you: in a few weeks, maybe even today, the truce will be declared in the main stream. All the talking points have been heard. The synthesis gets invisibly disseminated. Quite fascinating, really. Memetic studies is a science in which the observations haven't even been written down yet because we're still applying our theories on discourse in real time.

That truce will look like:

Normal human behavior is to have a few one night stands. It's a good way to move on after a breakup. It's a good way to practice. It's a good way to enjoy the hunt for its own sake. All of this advice is gender neutral.

Having a one night stand shouldn't become normal for you, it should feel a little weird and alienating. It's natural to want more, and in this experience you can recall again the power and virtue of monogamy.

So let's be lenient. College doesn't count because there should be some things in life, so start at 15. A person who never has a monogamous relationship isn't a good fit for a monogamous relationship. Two 25-year-olds comparing numbers should look like: a hottie banged 15 dudes in college (good for everyone), got into a long term relationship which ended at 24, had 4 partners in the direction of moving on but is looking to date and marry. That's 20.

Really focusing on the number is focusing on the wrong thing. There is a flipside to promiscuity and that is interest in the bedroom. All you really want is someone who has some control over their desires and some experience in the bedroom. It's not about the number, it's how you got to that number.

This has been a recorded transmission of a consensus I didn't participate in much. I hope it helps dissuade some of the godawful male angst around here.