https://old.reddit.com/r/texts/comments/16umou7/howd_i_do

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So I mean sure but all she did was ask if you lied. She gave you a fair reason as to why she finds guys unattractive and you could also give a fair reason as to why you don't like someone of a certain body type. It doesn't make you shallow per se but it will leave you unhappy later in life. Body weight fluctuates over the years depending on various factors. If all you are looking for is a body type it might lead you to being unhappy. (92)

Idc about body type personally I was using it as an example of the double standard. I've dated women of all sizes and statures, I think my frustration with her comes from a few friends of mine who are shorter and run into girls who even though they are shorter than them, they still say they are too short and they vent to me about it and these are some legit good dudes! So I stand with them on the subject plus that's the first question every other girl asks is how tall are you so it seems they are more concerned with body type than personality/compatibility (-51)

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I think your response to her is 100% uncalled forAt least she's honest and straightforward, it's better than not asking upfront and then ghost the guy just because he's shorter and leave him wondering why she didn't answer his messages. I have no issues with how she feels about shorter guys, it's just not her typeI think it's kind of messed up that dude lied to her about his height and she has every right to call him out on it because she asked upfront as she did with you. No double standards at all here. (194)

OPs points is socially speaking men can't be open and honest about preferences in weight, breast size etc. it's not an issue if the rules are the same but it's not. Nowadays men are expected to find a woman beautiful regardless of her size or looks, if not they're “upholding the patriarchy by expecting women to adhere to sexist beauty standards” (-34)

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this is so stupid and ridiculous like please talk to a real person outside of the internet. no one fricking cares if you have a preference for a specific look. if you don't like fat women that's fine, and that's usually something you can tell through pictures meaning you don't approach that person. people who prefer tall people ask the height because you can't tell through pictures. please can everyone grow the frick up. approach who you find attractive and shut the frick up about whoever you don't find attractive. it's not hard at all. i'm tired of the men versus women shit. everyone just be fricking normal. it's not hard. and touch grass.i'm fat and tall. I want a tall man so I ask for height on dating apps. I don't give a rats butt if you aren't attracted to me because i'm fat. some men like that i'm fat some don't. I keep it pushing either way. (42)

Mallory. I promise you I spend more time offline than you do. And you didn't read my statement. I agree with you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with preferences. The issue is, certain groups of people are expected to not have preferences while others aren't. I'll even add the my comment. If men do have preferences outside of standard western beauty norms, they're often accused of sexualizing or fetishizing the women he prefers. (-19)

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why is everyone saying "well weight can lost"? that's not true. there are illnesses and disorders that can make weight loss impossible. there are medicines that cause you to gain weight. but also it's not a fat person's responsibility to lose weight because people don't want to accept fat people. all this BS about "oh well it's unhealthy" is such BS and just an excuse to fat shame. their weight doesn't concern you. it doesn't affect you. why does it bother you? collective you not op in particular).speaking as someone who is considered overweight by BMI standards (which I won't even go into) and who is tired of people hating on fat people (specifically fat women) because they don't want to conform to society's standards. and this is going to get downmarseyd to heck but I don't care because I am so tired of being hated simply for existing. and before anyone asks, I've been skinny and I've been fat. I was treated way better when I was skinny. I'm currently losing weight not by choice (my... (1)

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I agree and I also get really annoyed when someone uses the bigger girl comparison. I'm a woman who's 5'5 and a US size 16. I'd never call someone shallow for not wanting to date me. Dating is inherently discriminatory—they have preferences and so do I. I'd never want to go out with someone who was forcing themselves to be attracted to me. Everyone deserves a partner they're attracted to and that's attracted to them.The difference is that people can accurately judge my size from photos (assuming I upload full body pics, which I do), but you can't judge someone's height from a picture of them. Plus height is an objective measure, while weight looks completely different from person to person. That's why people ask your height. They're not wrong for doing so.EDIT: I'm muting this comment because this post had like 5 upmarseys when I left this comment, and I honest to god don't give a frick what any of you have to say. Learn how to have preferences without being a peepee about it. Yes people... (203)

Sorry but I have to disagree with this. People would be able to accurately judge the size of the person in that photo but they have no guarantee other than your word that is how you currently look or if it's even you.The picture could be of you ten years ago or of someone else, you could be lying. It is no difference to the potential of a man lying about his height. I have zero experience with dating apps so I don't know if it is ok for someone to straight up ask "how old is this pic", "are you still the same weight as this pic" or "is that you in this pic." Or is it considered rude to do so? If it is considered rude to ask if the pic is current or not a fake than asking a man's height should also be considered rude.Honestly I can't figure out why a guy would lie anyways it's not like she isn't going to find out the moment she meets you. Does he think that she is going to see him and think hey I know he fed me bullshit but he's cute? Or for that matter asking every guy if they lied... (1)

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The point she was trying to make here was misconstrued, she doesn't discriminate by height, everyone has attractiveness preferences, but it's about lying, lying about your height even is a sign of insecurity aswell which is an unattractive trait in and of it's own, but this women was lied to before she even met the guy, which is a horrible way to start any type of relationship (1)