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[๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜] AITAH for withdrawing โ€˜Wife Privileges' from my Boyfriend until he proposes to me?

https://old.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/179g7w9/aitah_for_withdrawing_wife_privileges_from_my?sort=controversial

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So by your own logic you've proposed to him twice and he's rejected your proposal. (4192)

Nice (103)

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HE DOES NOT WANT TO MARRY YOU AND FORCING HIM TO DO IT WILL JUST FRICK YOU BOTH OVER Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy you've wasted enough time on someone who isn't interested in marrying you. (2615)

She already said she doesn't want to force his hand which is why she didn't renew the lease with him. Why are you yelling in all caps? (307)

Basedness: ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜

Seriously, this guy obviously doesn't want to marry her. It might not even be that he doesn't want to get married, he just doesn't want OP as a wife. (659)

Or he just doesn't want to be married ever, some people are like that. But OP does want to get married, and it's important to her, so... there's really nowhere to go from there. At least not together. (460)

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Odd how the edit answers her own question perfectly well on its own. He's denied her she says. And why would 'unwife-ing' herself help? It's like she's just wanting to validate her preconceived notion of what's right in the thread. But no societal expectation is meaningful anymore. She's 7 years into a relationship. It doesn't matter what reddit thinks or what a majority or any group thinks. That's completely worthless. In this there's only the law and there's the two of them, nothing else matters. This should be rephrased to ask for advice, not moral judgment. It doesn't matter if he's being a jerk or not because OP is committed to marrying him. Perhaps go to someone with counciling experience. Asking reddit is the easier thing to do of course but it seems to me the quality of advice is very important here. This isn't a small thing. You can imagine it's all an information problem. That he doesn't understand how important marriage is to her because he said that it's just a stupid pa... (1)

Angriness: ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก

Passive aggressive comments that you want a proposal and that your ring finger feels empty (that's where I got the ick personally, btw) aren't, in fact, a lady-proposal. Your genitals don't actually change what words mean, or at least, they do so very rarely. I straight up think marriage and weddings are overrated, expensive excuses for someone, usually the bride, to have a very special day. Decrying ultimatums while giving an ultimatum but pretending it's not an ultimatum is also... kind of gross. Your boyfriend isn't great, and you do get credit for making your wants known, but whining about what you want while not actively, you know, doing things to make it happen is such entitled, juvenile, treat-me-like-a-princess-darnit nonsense that I'd be long out the door regardless. How the frick can every you want in this relationship be up to someone else to make happen for you? Why would yet set yourself up to be both helpless and frustrated when, instead, you could stop pretendin... (5)

Angriness: ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก

Holy fricking entitlement batman this post was hard to read and not laugh at OP. Just like the magical "friendzone" there is no such thing as "wife privileges." Two people are involved in making a relationship work. From top to bottom, rent to chores, contribution or not. You cant just call your half of the effort "wife duties" all of a sudden and go on strike, thats what a tantrum throwing child does, not a relationship partner. You pulling this whole act just to get a ring is petty and stupid. What you need is communication and hard set goals/expectations not ultimatums. Im not saying you are wrong to want marriage, but your approach is going to cause more problems than it solves. You need to sit down with your man and have a polite but frank conversation about BOTH of your future goals. Trying to impose a timeline, especially one as short as 4 years, on a major life commitment is bonkers. What if he's not ready for that? Your man is a whole butt person with his own needs, wants, g... (1)

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>I want a fricking ring and a fricking party where everyone tells me I'm pretty and then I'll probably start getting fat

This is fricking all I hear when my girlfriends talk about marriage.

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He didn't have enough money for a ring or savings for a wedding

:marseyeyeroll: I could be wrong but I am confident the moid doesn't want to do any of this as a poorcel.

If she was serious he would bring her to the courthouse and get married right there. Then, save the money for important things like a baby fund or a house.

But if the requirement to get married is to spend an exorbitant amount of money I would drag my feet too.

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>ring: $2000

>wedding: $15000

>vacation you call a โ€˜business trip' with the intern once your wife gets too fat: $2000

:#marseystocksdown:

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the trick is to get one that is already chubby and secretly make them feel bad about it until they get in shape themselves :marseysoutherner:

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She told me to withdraw all wife privileges from him until I get that title, that he has to โ€œearnโ€ me - not cleaning and cooking for him, moving out, not pay for his expenses sometimes - stuff like that.

But not having s*x with him is somehow off the table :marseydetective: :marseytrad:

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I don't see the problem unless you think a world where women try to manipulate men with s*x is a better world

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Major L Post lmao this woman wasted 7 years of her life :marseyxd: and is now rapidly heading towards The Cattery :marseywall:

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Ladies, don't shack up with no man and be his concubine. If you move into a house with him he better make you the queen of it first.

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Smart move by the women, the more you do for a moid before marriage the less reason there is to get married

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Long term relationships:marseyno: :marseyyikes: :marseypuke:

:marseyyes: Playing the field

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Hey reddit is healing.

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Dont marry a redditor.

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I'm with the woman on this. It seems like she made her desires pretty clear and has sacrificed a lot. The guy shouldn't be able to eat his cake and have it too.

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She already said she doesn't want to force his hand which is why she didn't renew the lease with him. Why are you yelling in all caps?:

Or he just doesn't want to be married ever, some people are like that. But OP does want to get married, and it's important to her, so... there's really nowhere to go from there. At least not together.:

Odd how the edit answers her own question perfectly well on its own. He's denied her she says. And why would 'unwife-ing' herself help? It's like she's just wanting to validate her preconceived notion of what's right in the thread. But no societal expectation is meaningful anymore. She's 7 years into a relationship. It doesn't matter what reddit thinks or what a majority or any group thinks. That's completely worthless. In this there's only the law and there's the two of them, nothing else matters. This should be rephrased to ask for advice, not moral judgment. It doesn't matter if he's being a jerk or not because OP is committed to marrying him. Perhaps go to someone with counciling experience. Asking reddit is the easier thing to do of course but it seems to me the quality of advice is very important here. This isn't a small thing. You can imagine it's all an information problem. That he doesn't understand how important marriage is to her because he said that it's just a stupid pa...:

Passive aggressive comments that you want a proposal and that your ring finger feels empty (that's where I got the ick personally, btw) aren't, in fact, a lady-proposal. Your genitals don't actually change what words mean, or at least, they do so very rarely. I straight up think marriage and weddings are overrated, expensive excuses for someone, usually the bride, to have a very special day. Decrying ultimatums while giving an ultimatum but pretending it's not an ultimatum is also... kind of gross. Your boyfriend isn't great, and you do get credit for making your wants known, but whining about what you want while not actively, you know, doing things to make it happen is such entitled, juvenile, treat-me-like-a-princess-damnit nonsense that I'd be long out the door regardless. How the fuck can every you want in this relationship be up to someone else to make happen for you? Why would yet set yourself up to be both helpless and frustrated when, instead, you could stop pretendin...:

Holy fucking entitlement batman this post was hard to read and not laugh at OP. Just like the magical "friendzone" there is no such thing as "wife privileges." Two people are involved in making a relationship work. From top to bottom, rent to chores, contribution or not. You cant just call your half of the effort "wife duties" all of a sudden and go on strike, thats what a tantrum throwing child does, not a relationship partner. You pulling this whole act just to get a ring is petty and stupid. What you need is communication and hard set goals/expectations not ultimatums. Im not saying you are wrong to want marriage, but your approach is going to cause more problems than it solves. You need to sit down with your man and have a polite but frank conversation about BOTH of your future goals. Trying to impose a timeline, especially one as short as 4 years, on a major life commitment is bonkers. What if he's not ready for that? Your man is a whole ass person with his own needs, wants, g...:

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