We're a married couple with two young kids. We have been open about a year. We are both doing pretty good and both have one outside partner. The firs time she came home with a hand print I didn't say anything because I wanted to be cool and supportive about everything. The next time she came home one half of one butt cheek was dark purple and yellow. This time it bothered me, it seemed extreme and it's visible to our kids when she walk around in panties. I voiced my concern and she agreed not to do it anymore. However she is now wanting to revisit it in the future. I feel like me and my kids shouldn't have to see the effects of her sex. Sure she can try to hide it, but eventually it will be seen by them and we will have to either be honest or lie. If we are being honest, I really don't think it's appropriate to tell a little girl why its ok for mommy to be hit by men. If we lie, now Im in a position of lying to my kids because of what another guy likes doing to my wife, that doesn't seem fair to me. Im not kink shaming btw, I don't care that they do it, I just don't think its fair the rest of the household has to see it.
Edit: a few people have mentioned wearing pants as a solution. We both sleep in our underwear so its not uncommon to walk around that way in the morning before we are dressed. I don't know if it's realistic to say she always has to wear pants. Also, our youngest still crawls into bed with us at night so there is that. There is also going to the bathroom with kids nearbyβ¦
Also, to her credit, they haven't seen her bruises yet. She claims she can keep them hidden, even mentioning that she could wear makeup on it. I just don't believe she will be able to pull it off forever. I know her, I believe eventually she'll slip up. I noticed her using the bathroom recently while our youngest was washing his hands. I noticed when she got up that had he been looking in her direction, he could have seen it. So its a matter of time in my opinion.
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They say that as if that's not what literally all people believe
Black lives matter
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Yes, and that's a problem
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t. someone that has definitely never been involved in any "consent accident"
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just to defend her not covering up her mangled butt cheeks in front of a toddler 
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