Stumbled across this term the other day, a category of spergs with something called PDA, or Pathological Demand Avoidance. From the looks of it, it's something used to describe a particular breed of “difficult” neurodivergent children who are somewhat social but in the most assholish way possible. It's not widely recognized and like most disorders today, seems like a definition people want to get in the DSM so they can get insurance to cover it, I'm guessing.
What's interesting is there's a popular channel where some mom provides a lot of advice on how to handle your child's nervous system. This is an important angle: you're not dealing with the child, you're dealing with the child's nervous system, which merits a completely “different” type of parenting. (Some would argue this isn't really parenting at all, but I'll let you be the judge.) Example:
More shorts here: https://youtube.com/@atpeaceparents/shorts
Just thought this would be a good PSA before our finest dramatards somehow manage to procreate.
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if you're always stuck capitulating to your tard kid in order to deescalate the situation, how do you ever set boundaries for acceptable and unacceptable behavior?
maybe your kid need to learn to self-regulate his nervous system and correct his behavior??? you know, like how all the other high-functioning and successful neurodivergent kids
do?
what are they to do when they grow up and enter the real world where people won't bend over backwards to accommodate their specific brand of
neurodivergence 
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His nervous system would start responding different if she beat him with a stick
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