my mom wants me to be having s*x and it's just so weird : AdviceForTeens | zoomers very mad it's not normal to be afraid of s*x.

Okay so it might sound weird okay. But literally my (19f) mom wants me to have s*x. Like it's so weird. She gives me the okay to have s*x all the time. And then she thinks I'm a lesbian because I don't spread my legs for a man. She had me at 19/20. And I made a post like this before like her saying she wants me to have kids soon. But she called me yesterday and was disappointed when I told her I'm not focused on s*x. I want to have my own everything and be on birth control before I have s*x. Like my own car, my own apartment, my own money so that if I get pregnant I can take care of my responsibility myself. I don't want to have a struggle baby. And she was like that's smart but you're already 19 you'll be 20. AND?! Tf you mean I'll be 20 next year? Like I don't even care to talk to her anymore. I know she's my mom but I would never do my future kids like that it's just weird and wrong as heck. Should I tell her about herself or just stop talking to her? I always try to give her the benefit of the doubt cuz she's my mom but idk anymore.

Edit: also my mom knows I'm scared of both s*x and pregnancy but she just dismisses it and says that's silly everyone has s*x and that pregnancy is normal…like what??

Like it's the like truth of the like matter like like.

Edit: thank you to everyone that is commenting except the weirdos telling me to listen to my mom frick you. But to everyone else your comments are so so appreciated <3

Oh no did the mean redditors tell you it's not normal to be scared of s*x in adulthood?

She's jealous because you are at the same age as she got pregnant. She is hoping you fall pregnant secretly so you never become better then who she was

Or she's worried her child is showing signs of delayed maturity.

Don't fall into the generational trauma trap

Fricking child

You're growing up to be wiser than your mother. You don't have to cut all contact, but perhaps space out contact so you don't speak with her as often.

BINGO we have the "cut out the person trying to help you" comment.

Frick her, who care what she says or thinks. Do what is best for you in your opinion. Seems like she's jealous and wants you to go down the same path as her. Be strong. It's your life not anyone else's.

No she just doesn't want her daughter to throwaway her youth and "get into" dating at 30 where most men are no longer interested

Good lord. How did such a stupid woman raise such a smart daughter. You are 100% right in your thinking IMHO. There is any amount of things you could do in the next fifteen to twenty years before having children. She just wants you to validate her poor life choices.

She's not going to frick you

Now for the controversial comments.

I love when people post questions & then when they don't get the feedback they wanted, they get shitty about it.

Like did you want input or did you just want to be coddled & told you're right & everyone else is wrong? Sounds like a b-word to me, on behalf of all dudes, please don't sleep with us. Be gay.

Sensible comment very downvoted

Maybe because pressuring someone who clearly does not want to have s*x to have s*x is weird? Maybe she wanted to feel validated? It's not like she's just going to be like, "hey, yeah! Let me get on tinder and hook up with someone I don't even know just to do it!" because reddit told her to.

People need time for these things and would rather find someone they WANT to do it with. Heck, I didn't have s*x my first couple relationships because I didn't think it would be worthwhile and didn't want someone to only date me for my body.

So many people are writing things like "it's not normal to not want s*x 😵‍💫", say that to literally EVERYONE who ended up not having s*x until marriage. Sure its rare, but it's not wrong to do so, everyone has their reasons. FOH trying to be an asshat to someone who literally just does NOT want something rn.

It's very odd and a sign of some sort of issue

It's not that she doesn't want to have s*x, it's that she's scared of having s*x, which is not normal. No matter how many virtue signaling redditors tell her it is.

I'll talk to you never, see ya loser

Because it's painful? Which is also valid? Because many women are scared of having s*x because of the pain? I don't think I know a single woman who ** wasn't ** scared to have s*x for their first time because of the pain or the implications it had 💀 You likely wouldn't get it because you're a man lmfao

Every women I've talked to about it said "I was scared for like a minute and then he busted I relaxed"