OP's girlfriend doesn't have s*x with him for 8 years, so he gets rid of his s*x drive by associating horniness with pain. Now she wants to have s*x finally.

My gf and I have been together for 8 years, and we've never had s*x.

My gf has had some issues regarding s*x. She's gone to a therapist, and she realized she may never want s*x.

I knew all of this beforehand, and I was willing to stay sexless, as she's a wonderful person. I've never pressured her for s*x, and never expected it. It was hard for me at times though. Also, non monogamy was never an option.

Fast forward a few years, and my libido is completely gone, I don't do any sexual, (I still hug and kiss my gf though).

I dont even masturbate or watch porn anymore. Even if a s*x scene comes up on a movie or TV, it does nothing for me. Any s*x drive i ever has is gone.

My gf recently tried to grab my crotch, and I pushed her away. I asked what is she doing, and she said she wants to try and start being sexual with me.

We had a long talk about why she feels this way, and she says she can't really explain it.

I told her I don't want to have s*x, and she was disappointed.

Things have gotten more tense between us, and the other day we has a fight. She says that I'm just doing this to punish her because she wouldn't have s*x with me before. She says she doesn't believe me when I say my libido is gone

Im just really frustrated with her now, because I was willing to give up s*x to be with her and I never made her feel bad about it, and now she's upset with me. Am I wrong in this?

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