!fellas

Transwoman here. In my past life, I always made my ex beg before I finished. I'd start with a full body massage, then work my way down face to boobs to muff with my tongue. For as long as it took, before I even started to penetrate. Then I'd still go down more if she wasn't done. Literally nothing turned me on more than her muff.

Turns out, I was a lesbian. She wasn't. My current wife and I (44, mtf) have a good s*x life though my drive is higher than hers. We both use fingers and toys on ourselves and each other! I still don't understand why many cis men are so selfish. There is nothing more rewarding than watching a partner squirm with delight! And yes, not all men are as is evidenced by some of the replies.

100% NTA. If he can't figure it out, show him! Just go to the shop by yourself and buy one. Don't accept no for an answer. Next time he pulls this, just whip it out and do your thing in the bed right in front of him. If he reacts poorly, take it as a sign it is time to move on.

You are dating a naive man child, not a man. Has it occurred to you that he doesn't WANT you to feel pleasure? If he won't touch your clit that's a massive indicator. He has some serious insecurity issues and just sees you as a s*x toy, sorry for being blunt but that's how he's treating you. Someone who will want you to feel good will be open minded and find the best way to please you, he won't care if it's a toy, his hands, mouth or experimenting. S*x isn't one sided, it's a tango.

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