https://old.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/19csom8/my_36f_husband_37m_found_out_i_cheated_years_ago
This is probably ragebait but I love hating I am a real hater.
>I will start this by saying I love my husband more than anything and never once in our entire 17 years together, did I think about cheating.
Except when the dumb whore cheated lmao
>However, back in our first year of dating, I (then 20. joined his family for Christmas. We call got really drunk and I passed out at some point. When I woke up, I was in his brother's (then 24. bed naked. I had woken up just as he was finishing.
Teehee totally just blacked out and ended up in his bed for no reason.
We left the next morning and I had never told anyone about what happened that night. Believe me I was disgusted with myself and really ashamed but I was really scared of losing Evan. He was my first real boyfriend. He was mature, sweet, kind and we had started out deciding that we wanted long term commitment. I didn't want to lose any of it for a drunken mistake. I stopped drinking completely since that incident and never ever put myself in such a vulnerable position again.
>He was mature, sweet, kind
Fellas if your foid starts describing you like this she doesn't feel sexually attracted to you. You are her piggy bank "anchor" she (thinks) dates down because she wants commitment, not because she thinks you are hot.
>The guilt sort of lessened over the years and we were happy. Married right after college and have started a family since. I was very happy and so was Evan.
Oh well if the whore doesn't feel bad about fricking her BIL then everything is fine, right? Marrying your boyfriend with a skeleton who's related to him in your closet is morally righteous because "we are happy". Foids really can justify getting away with everything they want.
>But last week, his brother came back to town. He didn't tell anyone but called Evan to meet up and told him everything. Apparently he had found god and wanted to clear his conscious. Evan came home and he was crying. He's never shouted at me like that and he called me disgusting and kept crying asking me how I could do something so vile. I begged and apologized. I tried explaining I was drunk and didn't realize what was happening.
I swore I had no intentions to cheat and had never wanted to cheat.
But then the whore fricking did didn't she? How the frick can women be this delusional about their actions?
>But he wouldn't believe me.
I wonder why
>He has a job that makes him travel quite a bit. Now he thinks I was cheating all those times he was away and I can't convince him that it's not true.
Once a whore always a whore
>I know I made a horrible mistake and probably deserve what's happening.
>probably
>probably
Plebbit will surely call out this piece of shit that build her marriage on a foundation of li-
>You tell him "your brother r*ped me when I was drunk, then threatened you would leave me if you ever found out. Looking back I know it was r*pe now, but I was young and terrified then, so I believed him." Then you press charges if you still can, to make it official.
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This is totally believable because it's classic foid behavior. Even the part where she writes about cheating is written to make it seem like she had no agency, like she somehow just "woke up" having s*x with some guy instead of making a series of conscious decisions every step of the way. And of course instead of coming clean on her own so she might have a small chance at saving the relationship she kept it secret and trickle-truthed him so that he had to wait to hear about her cheating from somebody else.
Honestly, unless somebody can point to the post history with some evidence that it's an op, I would believe that it's real. It 100% matches my experience of female relationship behavior.
Also, notice how selfish these women are. Even when an approach would have the highest mathematical probability of succeeding they still won't use it if it means discomforting themselves in even the slightest way whatsoever. Like for example here, the strategic thing for the foid to do if she really wanted to save the marriage would be to avoid telling hubby about the cheating at first, but periodically get him a hot hooker on his birthday and convince him to have a sexy threesome or something like that. Then one night after hubby has just had the most degenerate night of his life, come clean with him. That way she gets full marks for honesty (because he heard about the cheating from her, not somebody else) and makes it hard for him to resent her extramarital s*x fling (because in a way she already made it up to him, by giving him even more extramarital s*x than she had). But cheating women almost never think of using this approach even though it has the highest odds of working, because in some small way it would involve making her husband happy and these narcissistic life-ruiner bitches can't have that. Even when she's seeking forgiveness, the foid narcissist always chooses the path that makes her husband most miserable while minimizing her own personal discomfort.
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Have you ever told your ex wife you wish she'd just gotten you some hookers and everything might have been okay?
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No, I don't talk to her anymore because it's deeply tiresome hearing her gaslamping bullshit
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Have you ever been married?
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Yes, can you not tell that I'm a little bitter about it? I thought it was pretty obvious
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When do you plan on settling down? What qualities did you like in your ex-wife?
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Why do you ask? Are you the official rdrama matchmaker?
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I assure you there are many fine women on rdrama, and some of them won't even falsely accuse you of r*pe
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Fair point. But I don't feel comfortable sharing my preferences openly on rdrama because then I'll have gangstalkers trying to insinuate themselves in my life by posing as my dream woman
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Are you the brother in this story?!
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Well I did get cheated on and it turned out that much of her life story was a lie, so there are indeed similarities. Thankfully I wised up and got out without having kids with her though
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By being even more manipulative and dishonest?
pot meet kettle, lol
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Look, she has to be the one to come clean to hubby - if he hears it from anybody else, their relationship is basically done. But at the same time, she has to do it in a way that mitigates his anger.
Speaking for myself, one of the things that got me so pissed off about my ex-w*fe's cheating is that I had plenty of opportunities to hook up while I was with her and I stupidly passed them up because I was loyal and thought she would reciprocate. It's not just the betrayal, it's all that time that could have been spent on other women which I instead wasted giving foot rubs to a disgusting fatty while trying to improve a relationship which unbeknownst to me was already over. So yeah, I admit that if my ex-wife had been arranging kinky threesomes with hot hookers for me the whole time I was with her, i would have been a lot less pissed off to discover that she had cheated on me, particularly if she admitted it herself rather than me having to snoop and find out the hard way.
Though I don't know what you're talking about with this "pot meet kettle" bullshit. Can you name anyone whose life I've ruined? As long as they treat me nicely, I'm generally pretty considerate of the people I date.
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