Fwb touched my belly... and I didn't spiral - /r/plussize

I want to share a positive experience ✨️

I have a new fwb and the first time we were together he caressed my belly. I remember noticing he did but I did not have negative thoughts or reactions. It just was. Later when we were cuddling he squeeze my roll softly, for a moment I giggle and I wondered if maybe he thought it was my breast but it was a quick passing thought and not a negative one.

When I was home later that night I was thinking back to those moments and how before I would hope the person I was with wouldn't notice or touch or be turned off by my belly. I thought about all the work and tears I have shed to get to this point of accepting my body as is. To accept if as part of everything I am and I felt emotional but proud of myself.

The next time we were together we were making out and he touched my belly again and I asked him what he was doing bc he was touching the side of my underbelly and just holding it and he said he was just feeling my body and then we kissed.

It only took years of therapy, and journaling, lots of crying sessions, packing my social media with bodies that look like mine, saying out loud that I am fat to get here. I am 37 years old and I am finally here.

I don't need anything from this post other than to hopefully give some of you hope that it can be done but you might need to do a little work. And maybe lots of fake it till you make it.

/u/greenteasmoothie138:

This was how I knew my husband was the one. No man had ever seen me 100% naked. Lights were always off, shirt was worn, or towel/sheet was wrapped. I remember one day after having s*x when we were dating I was in the bathroom with him waiting for the shower to heat up. We were talking about something, can't remember, and I felt comfortable. Then I thought, “Holy shit! I'm naked!” I didn't even notice for like a full five minutes and that meant something. We are going on 10 years and he sees me naked daily.

/u/promiscuous-girl1:

Some people genuinely don't see fat as anything negative and one time I was so upset about something my bf said but for him it was completely innocent and him just enjoying my body, anyways thank you for sharing 😁