I 24(f) was speaking to a man for about over a week now, I've been really insecure my whole life and avoided men entirely. Only just these past few months have I started to go on dating apps and speak to guys, I've not really found anyone I've been interested in until last week. I really got along with this guy, common interests and thought I was beautiful etc. In the beginning of the convo I was very clear that I'm plus size and if he's not into that that's completely fine, and he was bigger himself and emphasised that he was completely fine with my size and attracted to me. I also said that I'm not into being fetishised, he didn't drop any hints that he was into that.
We had a date tomorrow, to get coffee together. And today, after I've done my nails and toes, took a full body shower, plucked my eyebrows, used my hair and skincare that I reserve for special occasions and I was even going to bake him some cookies to try that we spoke about. He then sent me a long message about how he's into feederism and that he understands it's not for everyone and he likes me for me not his kink etc. I feel so humiliated. I feel gross and I feel like all security and confidence I had has just been destroyed. I really thought I found someone that liked me for ME myself, not because I'm fat. I sent him a voice note saying that I was clear I'm not into his fetish, and he had the opportunity to tell me then no? But instead he's told me just before our date.
I really feel like all my trust in potential partners has completely gone. I'm a really sceptical person usually, and it took so much time for him to break down my walls all to end up doing that. I hate feeders, and I hate my body for attracting them too.
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