There's this guy that I really like, how do I get him to go on a date with me? I feel like I'm stuck in the friendzone right now, and I want him to see me as a potential partner rather than a friend. I don't need him to fall for me or anything, I just want him to find me attractive 
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How to get a guy to go on a date with you???
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Have you tried just talking to him about this?
Women moment.
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I guess I just want him to give me a chance. For him to see me as a woman.
I don't want to ask him out because I don't want to ruin the friendship.
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Does he know you're trans?
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Yeah
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Relentlessly invite him to stuff. The more time he spends with you the more he'll have to like you. Honestly just anything you like and that he might like is fair game. Eventually he might catch on that you've been taking him on dates this whole time
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Listen neighbor, I'm very sorry that I have to say this but it's better you hear it from a stranger on the Internet than in person. There are nearly zero people who will truly, actually see you as a woman. No matter what you do or how well you pass, you will be seen (at best) as a man who is imitating a woman, or an inherently defective woman. Even if they say they do, they're almost certainly playing along out of political correctness or to spare your feelings. If this is what you're expecting, you're setting yourself up for failure.
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i might as well kill myself then. There is no "me" that is not a woman.
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Chill, it ain't that serious how people perceive you anyway.
Man, woman, whatever.
It's unironically true (if a bit corny) that you've got to love yourself before others can love you, at least for a healthy and long lasting relationship. I wish you the best bb
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calm down lol, let's assume that he sees you as a woman
100% he still has to be attracted to you right? it might not be the case where 
if you were a biofoid 
he'd definitely be attracted to you anyway.
just shoot
your shot if you really 
want him as a lover, attractive males get propositioned to all the time anyway 
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You should hope that he likes what he sees you as, not that he sees you in a certain way. He can give you a chance even if he doesn't see you as a woman.
Also don't keep yourself safe, there are better ways to die.
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Are you going
to turn him down if he wants to get all up in your xussy because he thinks you're a cute twink 
rather than a woman?
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Lol ok then
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Gender isn't real just be a womanly man who likes men that's okay too you know, all men secretly want to be anime girls but it's not in the cards for us so don't worry just play the hand you're dealt
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Specifically a hot one, but being a man is better than being an ugly woman (no offensive to ugly women, life is cruel) so we take those
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Sorry if this is personal but are you actually attracted to him or do you see him dating/being attracted to you as gender validation? If that's the case then even if he does reciprocate it'll likely be a short fling that'll fizzle out as there won't be a mutual desire for a long relationship and I don't think that's worth losing a friend. Just my two cents. A friend is worth more than a lover in the long run imo. Trying to date friends is risky business and I try to treat all my friends as romantically off limits, it makes things easier and avoids heartbreak. It's best to pursue relationships with everyone being on the same page to start.
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I am actually attracted to him. When he looks me in the eyes I get all flustered and sometimes when i touch myself i think of him
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Well if your feelings are that strong then you have to go for it, the friendship will end anyway if you keep putting it off. Either you won't be able to handle being around him anymore due to how you feel about him or he'll feel uncomfortable. May as well ask him out (I recommend bowling if you're in college, most schools have it).
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are there
any signals that he's open to that? i mean most people in the "trans lives 
matter" side of the issue might not feel the same way when it comes to dating
if you two have some shared interests or hobbies, why not? and even if not, someone has to take the initiative or the whole thing will be stuck in a limbo, which in the long-term would
suck a lot more for you if your feelings for him are strong 
isn't it? more often than not it's not a male actually 
taking initiative from the get go and instead picking up on subtle hints and all that nonsense before 
going 
for it anyway, if we're talking about a long-term relationship and not a hookup or something like that
good luck!
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Tough shit but the door swings both ways hun. Look, you miss 100% of the peepees you don't take, at the same time you're expecting someone else to take the risk of ruining the friendship while keeping all of these hard feelings you have tucked firmly in the backside in your mind.
Nothing in life is without risk, and if you don't take the risk and explore those feelings, they may very well just keep growing until you can't contain them anymore, at which point you'll be awkwardly flopping those feelings around during casual activities like tuesday boardgame nights or naked twister thursdays etc.
The point I'm getting at here is you need to stop acting like a big b-word about everything and start acting like lil queen and jump on that peepee( or vice versa.)
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Is he close enough that you could invite him to do something without it being a date?
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Yeah thats what ive been thinking about doing but idk what to invite him to
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Idk. What's he into? What are you into? There has to be some overlap.
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