When it comes up again you can offer him a different perspective, coming from another man. The women in my life who date bemoan the exact experience you have: a huge time sink digging through profiles that don't interest you, chats that go nowhere, terrible first dates. You have to do all of the work trying to sort through it.
Meanwhile, I get a match on the apps once in a blue moon. And if I've put any effort at all into reading the profiles and not just swiping on pretty faces, it's going to be a decent match that more often then not leads to a date.
Because somehow in online dating, we've managed to once again put the heavy lifting on women. You are stuck figuring out who is and isn't compatible, he's just gotta wait for somebody to select him.
Complaining about drowning to a person who is dying of thirst isn't going to get you much sympathy, neither side understands what its like for the other, both suck but if I had to choose im picking the foid perspective over the moid one personally.
This is the same mindset that leads then to believe that they should be monetarily compensated for the chores they do at home, even though they could chose to be single or choose a partner that helps out around the house. Not to mention that all single people do their own chores and arent compensated. Girl math and economics lol
Maybe these guys who don't get matches are simply not wanted. Maybe it's not so much statistics and odds and algorithms and height preferences; maybe these dudes are just objectively undesirable. Sucks, but what can we do about it? They aren't owed s*x or a date.
Went back 4 pages and all her posts are just pooping on moids /u/vwlphb
He clearly doesn't understand your life experience or, most likely, doesn't want to! He sees you as privileged and secretly despises you for it. Well, it's not so secret anymore! 🙊
He hit you with whataboutism and tries to gaslamp and diminish your lived experience!!
And you still call him your “best (male) friend”??
Sis, treat people according to the way they treat you!
I always tell my own family and friends when they come to me with stuff like this:
”Just because you're friends with everybody, doesn't mean everybody is your friend.”
Just because you're his best friend, doesn't mean he's your best (male) friend! And he's not with the way he sees you, gaslit you and diminished a real issue for you!
Time to cut him out of your life or seriously downgrade him from “best (male) friend” to “someone I used to know” or “acquaintance”. IJS.
Look, I understand not getting any matches makes dating hard and it's hard on your self esteem, but that doesn't earn you the right to invalidate my experience just because I get more matches
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they literally think this lmao
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which r-slur would ever pick the second option lmao
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lol, the guy who "just waits for someone to select him"
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QUAD ZEROES
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Yeah she's actively going on dates, what more can you want from a dating app?
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I went on this date once and the dude did not, I repeat, did not eat out my butt immediately
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Foids don't generally enjoy one night stands with random losers on tinder. Doesn't seem crazy from their POV
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Complaining about drowning to a person who is dying of thirst isn't going to get you much sympathy, neither side understands what its like for the other, both suck but if I had to choose im picking the foid perspective over the moid one personally.
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Wow you can get the marvel Disney unwashed manchild DV peepee any time you want, what an honor, definitely nothing to complain about here.
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I don't understand this. On apps like tinder/bumble, don't women control who they match with?
Like both people have to select that they like the other person.
So the woman is actively controlling who they match with
and they're still complaining about the people they match with
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It's an interesting juxtaposition where the women have no choice but to match with frickbois but the men somehow match their true love everytime.
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This is the same mindset that leads then to believe that they should be monetarily compensated for the chores they do at home, even though they could chose to be single or choose a partner that helps out around the house. Not to mention that all single people do their own chores and arent compensated. Girl math and economics lol
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Went back 4 pages and all her posts are just pooping on moids /u/vwlphb
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Still not allowed to say dating is harder for them
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All I know how to do is copy and paste those and edit the numbers lol
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https://old.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/17oz75f/my_best_male_friend_told_me_today_that_me/k83d2oj?context=8
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Women should be fined for using the word gaslamp. To them, gaslamping is disagreeing and telling them your perspective.
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Deserved for being friends with women
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Women doing what they do best!
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I LOVE WOMEN SO MUCH IT'S UNREAL
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