Hey all, I just wanted to vent a little. It's incredibly hard for me to date since I'm trans. I used to not declare it on my profile and only shared that information, when I'm already chatting with that person through the dating app (early on) but since that has gotten me a lot of transphobic remarks, aswell as insults, I put it in my profile.
Now the problem is, I understand most lesbians won't date transbians, because of their genitalia, which makes sense, and makes it unlikely to match with another lesbian, but rather bisexual/pansexual women. Now I have gotten into a lot of matches thinking the other person is also into women, but usually it turns out they are just bi-curious and state that I'm "the perfect thing in-between" which is so incredibly insulting. Most of them don't see me as a real woman, but something in-between woman and man, because of my genitalia, which gives off chaser vibes.
I don't know how to go about this. If i don't declare I'm trans, I don't get chasers since I pass fairly well, but get a lot of hate when outing myself. If I do declare it, most of my matches are by bi-curious chasery women.
Idk what to do :( it all sucks so bad I just want a cute gf that doesn't see me as a man. (Most of my previous relationships also stated that they never saw me as a woman, when they broke up with me. Or I found out that they were actually into men and never liked women at all.) Help? :')
here is their pic. how many filters do you think they used?
Maybe you could try a sassy approach to dating app profile text? Something like: “Transwoman looking for a lesbian relationship. Chasers, bicurious flakes and transphobes need not apply”.
guaranteed tons of matches with this
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Why is it so important why someone is attracted to someone else? Maybe the "perfect in-between" comments could be off putting but otherwise, why does it matter when someone likes specific attributes? Guys aren't that hung up on girls only liking us for our success. Girls aren't cutting their tits off to see if guys would still date them.
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It's dupers delight not dupees delight.
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Because the only validation they sneak is to be the other gender.
They know that moids will frick anything so it's not that much of accomplishment to pull a “straight” dude that is just using them as a c*m rag
Lesbians hardly have s*x, much less s*x with a peepee haver
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The realization that my good personality (relative to steve the wifebeater, downbeat alcoholic micky and jemery meeks) is not correlated with my romantic success, but me having money eventually might be, was a huge blackpill that still bums me out
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