Hey all, I just wanted to vent a little. It's incredibly hard for me to date since I'm trans. I used to not declare it on my profile and only shared that information, when I'm already chatting with that person through the dating app (early on) but since that has gotten me a lot of transphobic remarks, aswell as insults, I put it in my profile.
Now the problem is, I understand most lesbians won't date transbians, because of their genitalia, which makes sense, and makes it unlikely to match with another lesbian, but rather bisexual/pansexual women. Now I have gotten into a lot of matches thinking the other person is also into women, but usually it turns out they are just bi-curious and state that I'm "the perfect thing in-between" which is so incredibly insulting. Most of them don't see me as a real woman, but something in-between woman and man, because of my genitalia, which gives off chaser vibes.
I don't know how to go about this. If i don't declare I'm trans, I don't get chasers since I pass fairly well, but get a lot of hate when outing myself. If I do declare it, most of my matches are by bi-curious chasery women.
Idk what to do :( it all sucks so bad I just want a cute gf that doesn't see me as a man. (Most of my previous relationships also stated that they never saw me as a woman, when they broke up with me. Or I found out that they were actually into men and never liked women at all.) Help? :')
here is their pic. how many filters do you think they used?
Maybe you could try a sassy approach to dating app profile text? Something like: “Transwoman looking for a lesbian relationship. Chasers, bicurious flakes and transphobes need not apply”.
guaranteed tons of matches with this
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!transphobes lmfao that incel chin after FFS
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Wait this
has BRAIN CANCER and they're worried about their dating profile?
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lol i only just read that part too now i feel a little bad
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Meh, pituitary tumors are not considered by everybody to technically be "brain cancer", and are usually benign / have a 90%+ survival rate. I think they are probably being intentionally dramatic with the phrasing.
Edit: Googled it - "No, in over 99% of patients, this is NOT a cancer; it is benign"
"Pituitary tumors are common, but most are benign (noncancerous) and are almost never fatal"
Also, if they actually had "brain cancer" obviously the doctors would give a frick, I'm calling bullshit
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lmao UGH why did i believe a
who lied about passing 
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I am an amateur Munchausen by Internet observer / detective
, it's my niche hobby. I'm not a doctor or anything though so this is just my opinion
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nah i should have clocked that "my body thinks i'm pregnant" shit lol
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Met a gal once who said she had brain cancer that medicaid (she worked at the gas station I went to) wouldn't cover. Bet it was one of these
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U just don't learn ur lesson do u?
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If I had a growth in my brain I'm calling it brain cancer.
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i dont feel bad anymore it was prolly the usual
exaggeration: https://rdrama.net/h/femaledatingstrategy/post/245773/struggling-with-dating-as-a-trans/5938275#context
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Imagine having a pituitary tumour but not getting any cool side effects like natural 1200ng/dl test.
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It's a normal chin, andd she'd pass well enough for chasers and bi's.
!cuteandinvalid, teach chiobs a lesson!
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phew i almost slipped up
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this neighbor need to get his money back for that ffs
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All these moids who get FFS need their money back. I swear these doctors just put them under, smack them around a little, maybe peel their face open and sew them back up, and then collect $$$$
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this is a theory about dr rumer lmao
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Same! No way that b-word doesn't hate
s
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WHAT DID THEY DO TO MY BOY
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He threw away a great jawline chasing coomer euphoria
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The only thing this passes as is mashing random in a male character generator
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LUL what is that neck
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The adams apple
Oof
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Darn, kinda
story tho
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it's prolly fake: https://rdrama.net/h/femaledatingstrategy/post/245773/struggling-with-dating-as-a-trans/5938275#context
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Honestly looks slightly more feminine in the before pics, probably mostly down to make up drawing your attention into all the masculine features but still
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idek get what they want.
they want to date a woman. but not a woman that is a "chaser" ?
what does that even mean? they are dating in bad faith?
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Something that doesn't exist.
Sweaty. Get with the program here. Of course that's it.
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The entire point of transitioning is changing how other people perceive them. They think of themselves as losers/failures in the context of "being a man" so they want to social expectations that women have. Any hint that the person they are talking with still perceives them as a man makes them feel like a loser again.
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remember back in the day you'd see some frat bro all
yer a lesbian? you just haven't had the right peepee, cute butch b-word! 
and people generally agreed that was an r-slured stance?
now we have to validate the dudes who have that stance. we have to act like they are right and the lesbians are bigots.
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Turns out all the frat bro had too do was put on a dress and scream "trans lives matter".
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At least fratbros can be quite hot
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That wasn't r-slurred, all women are bi
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They don't want a chaser, they want a biofoid lesbian because it's the ultimate form of validation. The thing is they don't exist. Biofoid lesbians are obviously only into biofoid lesbians. It's in the name.
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I legitimately don't understand why trains hate “chasers” so much.
You literally still have your peepee, even if we work with new math and we all have to call you a woman you literally have a peepee. Women don't have peepees, and until you chop yours off you aren't a woman as we have known them for the existence of humanity. Like, do obese women look down on chubby chasers? Do gay men look down on other gay men for liking peepee? You already have an incredibly small subset of the population that is attracted to you, and now you want to cut that down by 9/10th? I don't get it.
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It's the most female thing about them. Nothing turns a women off more than someone pining over them.
This assumes the obvious, that these dudes are ugly as frick
Yes, probably. No one likes being a slump buster
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they still aren't women as we have known them for the existence of humanity.
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You know how guys become dribbling r-slurs when they get a whiff of kitty? Now multiply it by the "i'm not supposed to be doing this" factor while combining the gross and weird fetishes that come with those crossed wires.
Don't think chasers would be a problem if it stopped at "lemme see that huge peepee, girl".
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That's the best explanation I've heard, but this person is complaining about women doing it too?
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I'm pulling this out of my butt, but i'd guess it's like women are just doing it to experiment/seem woke? Like they're primarily interested in it for the quick brownie points but those relationships never last long so they don't put any effort into forming deep connections.
Like "bisexual" women who thirst post about Shego while laying in bed with their boyfriend.
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It's weird because being a chaser should be a perfectly legitimate sexual identity.
In reality they're weird gross perverts, but trains don't live in reality.
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Nothing you love to see more on a dating app than sassy (aka annoying)
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you know the gut reaction to hearing that was "gross im into women"
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If you're an incel as a man, what makes someone think they won't be an incel as a woman?
Boohoo y no cute lez want to lick my oversized clitty
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A fundament of incel belief is that any woman whatsoever can get s*x just by spreading her legs. They don't understand there is the bottom permille that can't get laid even at 2am in a dive bar,and that trainmaxxing is likely to land them in this subset.
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god i hate these people.
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I guess brain cancer is mental illness.
It's in the name.
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Why is it so important why someone is attracted to someone else? Maybe the "perfect in-between" comments could be off putting but otherwise, why does it matter when someone likes specific attributes? Guys aren't that hung up on girls only liking us for our success. Girls aren't cutting their tits off to see if guys would still date them.
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Because the only validation they sneak is to be the other gender.
They know that moids will frick anything so it's not that much of accomplishment to pull a “straight” dude that is just using them as a c*m rag
Lesbians hardly have s*x, much less s*x with a peepee haver
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It's dupers delight not dupees delight.
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The realization that my good personality (relative to steve the wifebeater, downbeat alcoholic micky and jemery meeks) is not correlated with my romantic success, but me having money eventually might be, was a huge blackpill that still bums me out
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Its society's fault lesbians dont want to suck your peepee.
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kinda, women can easily be psyopped into stuff like this
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that doesn't see me as a manIt always comes back to this in the end, doesn't it? But we're supposed stay silent and continue to deny the very real existence of the incel-to-trans pipeline.
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Snapshots:
undelete.pullpush.io
ghostarchive.org
archive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
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