Hey all, I just wanted to vent a little. It's incredibly hard for me to date since I'm trans. I used to not declare it on my profile and only shared that information, when I'm already chatting with that person through the dating app (early on) but since that has gotten me a lot of transphobic remarks, aswell as insults, I put it in my profile.
Now the problem is, I understand most lesbians won't date transbians, because of their genitalia, which makes sense, and makes it unlikely to match with another lesbian, but rather bisexual/pansexual women. Now I have gotten into a lot of matches thinking the other person is also into women, but usually it turns out they are just bi-curious and state that I'm "the perfect thing in-between" which is so incredibly insulting. Most of them don't see me as a real woman, but something in-between woman and man, because of my genitalia, which gives off chaser vibes.
I don't know how to go about this. If i don't declare I'm trans, I don't get chasers since I pass fairly well, but get a lot of hate when outing myself. If I do declare it, most of my matches are by bi-curious chasery women.
Idk what to do :( it all sucks so bad I just want a cute gf that doesn't see me as a man. (Most of my previous relationships also stated that they never saw me as a woman, when they broke up with me. Or I found out that they were actually into men and never liked women at all.) Help? :')
here is their pic. how many filters do you think they used?
Maybe you could try a sassy approach to dating app profile text? Something like: “Transwoman looking for a lesbian relationship. Chasers, bicurious flakes and transphobes need not apply”.
guaranteed tons of matches with this
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I legitimately don't understand why trains hate “chasers” so much.
You literally still have your peepee, even if we work with new math and we all have to call you a woman you literally have a peepee. Women don't have peepees, and until you chop yours off you aren't a woman as we have known them for the existence of humanity. Like, do obese women look down on chubby chasers? Do gay men look down on other gay men for liking peepee? You already have an incredibly small subset of the population that is attracted to you, and now you want to cut that down by 9/10th? I don't get it.
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You know how guys become dribbling r-slurs when they get a whiff of kitty? Now multiply it by the "i'm not supposed to be doing this" factor while combining the gross and weird fetishes that come with those crossed wires.
Don't think chasers would be a problem if it stopped at "lemme see that huge peepee, girl".
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That's the best explanation I've heard, but this person is complaining about women doing it too?
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I'm pulling this out of my butt, but i'd guess it's like women are just doing it to experiment/seem woke? Like they're primarily interested in it for the quick brownie points but those relationships never last long so they don't put any effort into forming deep connections.
Like "bisexual" women who thirst post about Shego while laying in bed with their boyfriend.
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It's the most female thing about them. Nothing turns a women off more than someone pining over them.
This assumes the obvious, that these dudes are ugly as frick
Yes, probably. No one likes being a slump buster
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they still aren't women as we have known them for the existence of humanity.
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It's weird because being a chaser should be a perfectly legitimate sexual identity.
In reality they're weird gross perverts, but trains don't live in reality.
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