I'm in my third year of college and i still dont have any friends and I think im gay . How do I just be normal and make friends and fall in love and not be alone all the time? if this goes on for much longer probably just going to rope tbh
alright sorry for blogpost but i try to include marseys to make it more interesting and less sad
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Get involved with things around campus. College is literally the easy mode of this.
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Yeah that seems reasonable might try doing that again Im kinda ugly and awkward though so it feels like whenever I start a conversation or try to join a group its like I am intruding on other peoples personal space . I get weird looks and stuff from people so i get the impression that people don't want to deal with me but maybe it is just my own social anxiety . I didnt have any friends in high school either cause whenever I tried to socialize I would make bad impressions and people would just brush me off it kind of made me more recluse and bitter and i have a fear of coming off as too clingy or initiating anything. ive tried taking some meds to make me less of a so maybe it works or just placebo idk really
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If you wanna play on easy mode then hang out with people in the anime or video game clubs. They're very accepting (unless you have shit taste) and it'll help you get your feet wet socializing
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I second this! Everyone in those kinds of clubs are already the sorta weird kids. So they have lots of empathy and are very happy to help new people get out of their shell.
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Weebs/furries/g*mers, then stoners/hippies/ravers (getting high at shows is something to do), then normies.
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maybe you should stop shilling durians if you wanna make friends
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Join clubs for things you are interested in or that have the most attainable men
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All my best friends don't go to my school
I've made some casual friends at my university though.
I started tutoring for a class and I was able to become acquaintances/friends with the other tutors. (We've gone to see movies together as a group and such) So maybe try asking a professor of a subject you're good at if you can do that? It's also good side money.
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You are too focused on your own thoughts when you are in public. That's why you are always worrying about fitting in and how you act. Also, you don't know how to act because you don't pay attention to other people so you don't know how to act.
Try going for a walk and observing what's going on. Don't think about rdrama or memes. Don't think about TV or your studies. Think about the outside, the people, what they are doing, how the architecture looks, how the sun makes the trees look.
To meet other gay people, if you want to get involved in pride and activism then go to the LGBT center. If you want to be artsy go try to attend theater stuff. If you want stem gays you're hard pressed but they exist. You can just tell people you're gay and they will introduce you to their gay friends.
To not be alone, making friends is about statistics. You will take to 10 people on campus but you will talk to 0 while locked up in your goon cave.
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i think ur right thanks
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Keep yourself safe
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idk just had something to eat and I feel better . might go for a run tonight and see how i feel in the morning
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Drink alcohol until you aren't anxious anymore. Then talk to people.
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you are like the tenth person to say this. the only people i see are my classmates who already dislike me . what am i going to do, show up to class drunk ?
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Go to events. Don't spend every night in front of the computer like I did. 4 years goes by fast.
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Just accept you only get grindr hookups if you do have bad personality.
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what
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Hey rightoid
Guess what?
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