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Troubled: A Review

I'll start off by saying that the writing for this book is sometimes less-than-literary. But the fact that the author clearly didn't spend a lot of time in writing seminars is a good thing in all other respects

It's a memoir of an orphaned half-latinx/half-Korean kid with a junkie mom who ends up in the foster system at a real young age. His recollections of his childhood made me give my kids an extra hug, and he was one of the lucky ones since he didn't get r*ped (which is super common for foster kids).

He talks about growing up in the system, then finally getting adopted by a good family which eventually falls apart (twice). He joins the Chair Force (affectionate) and kicks butt but is still just a fricked up kid inside, and nearly drinks himself to death. He then goes to Yale on the GI bill and eventually Cambridge for his PHD on scholarship.

All his memoirs lead up to the final two chapters which deliver the crux of the book:

  • First that elite virtue signalling is (luxury beliefs) the new Venblen Good and that the trickle-down effects of this really hurt normal people

  • Second that a stable, loving, family is the most important thing you can provide a kid. More than money.

The most important thing for the chuds on this site is that it puts elite virtue signalling in terms that elites themselves cannot brush aside. He calls out that the things rich college kids support socially are not the way they actually live their lives. It's a great read, and definitely a very centrist take IMO. He reads the audiobook himself too, which is always a plus. !grillers !bookworms

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I might consider reading it, but Rob comes off a bit like a diet Jordan Peterson to me.

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That's fair, and there's a lot of subtext that his worldviews are deeply conservative. He also seems to miss (possibly intentionally) some of the ways that he embodies the things he criticizes too. He also makes some connections that I don't think have a lot to do with each other (the sexual revolution isn't why single moms exist). But on the whole I thought it was worth reading, and I agree with the base assertion that stable, two parent households (Rob had two moms for a minute) are ideal for raising kids. Also that the foster system is deeply flawed. He also has a point that individuals still have agency within broken systems that I think gets lost in lefty circles too.

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While i may disagree with some of his conservative views, it's more his paternalistic psychotherapist writing style that annoys me. I get this similar ick from other people like Jonathan Haidt for example who write in the same fashion.

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What about nonchuds? do we have anything to gain from this book?

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That loving your kids and providing a stable home is more important than being a vanilla gorilla

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It captures some of the frustration that working class people feel for the highly-educated and wealthy who try to tell average jackasses that only Ivy-educated academics can really understand what the world's problems are.

The lefty establishment needs to reconnect with the working class to survive and they could take some notes from this.

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the author literally went to an ivy league school though?

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The point is he has an outsider's perspective on elite education, because he grew up poor. And people at Ivy's won't listen to criticism from non-elites because they think they're superior and everyone else is just r-slurred.

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Bardfinn

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:#marseythehound:

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