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ISO: Hobbies/passions to replace fricking tons of women??

I was pretty nerdy until my mid 20s and just had a couple long-term monogamous relationships. I played lots of video games and did random nerdy things like build model airplanes.

Then in grad school, my long-term GF broke up with me and I decided to get my life together and I had a major glowup. I started dating tons of women, mostly from dating apps, and I was pretty good at it! Good looking, high achieving women doing cool, sexy things. My post-grad school job was in a major city with tons of hotties and I also traveled around the world a lot for work, and my main off-work activity basically became fricking women. I got kind of addicted to this. I liked it, partly because chasing and having s*x with attractive women is per se great, but also there's enough of a challenge in it that it's not a foregone conclusion that I can frick some hottie, and with work/dedication you can get a lot better at it.

Eventually I met my wife and now we have a kid so obviously I cannot do this any more. But it was so much fun! I need a replacement hobby that has (1) challenging myself, (2) has difficult but achievable milestones/objectives, (3) feels like there's some progression/you can level up, (4) takes some innate talent + work to be good at.

Some things that I've tried that don't really work:

1. Video games. Fine, but I don't respect other video game players enough to care about beating them.

2. Music: I'm decent but I feel like there's no real space between fricking around in your garage (which is not serious enough for what I want) and being a professional (which is way too serious/I'm not good enough)

3. Running/biking/sports: Fine but I want something that is a little more intellectual too.

4. Ceramics: It's all foids, who can be motivated by this??

5. Trolling online: It's fun, I think about making a big anon twitter account, but I want to feel like I'm doing something of value.

Any suggestions???

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Fricking tons of men


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Zero challenge, and no sense of achievement.

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It's too easy

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Birding (cc: @T3D_SIMP, !birdposters) - its like playing pokemon IRL and its a fun challenge trying to fill your life list (the bird equivalent of a pokedex). It's also a great motivator to go traveling by yourself when you otherwise wouldnt. Not sure if it fulfills criteria #4, but it does require a bit of self-determination to find rare birds.

DIY home improvement (!homeowners) is another fun, but much more challenging hobby that I also enjoy. Im too chickenshit to do anything involving knocking down whole walls, but im proud of myself for doing my own recessed lighting in my living room not long ago.

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The Merlin app is pretty good for this since you can track what you've seen on a life list plus it has both photo and sound ID.

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you stare at birds long enough some frick shit can happen you don't want to end up like me :marseylicking: :eaglebussy:

getting a old car running is prety cool also musical instrument you can join a less serious wind ensemble or orchestrer or whatev

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Bird watching but you gotta kill the birds for it to count

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If you watched The Big Year, that's exactly how birding used to be till the Migratory Bird Treaty of 1917 made that illegal.

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I haven't no, that was just an intrusive thought I had when you compared bird watching to pokemon

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Yeah I actually fricked all those women before you did. Sorry bro

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One of them was actually a 30 year old virgin lol

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That's funny because she told me the same thing

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I did too

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Historical fencing.

There are tournaments, there are schools of thought for it, you interpret manuals so it has the intellectual aspect to it. It's definitely nerdy.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historical_European_martial_arts

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Rock climbing is a classic for moids in your position. It's sporty, but also a bit intellectually challenging plotting routes or solving climbing puzzles at the gym.

I might also suggest chess. It can be social if you want it to be, and it's got the whole rankings and titles angle, so there's your progression.

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Weight lifting is a pretty good one as far as having progression and milestones that are challenging. Cooking (like actual gourmet shit) is another one that'll scratch the intellectual itch too.

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Chess or poker

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I don't like knowing that a computer will always be better than me at chess. Poker maybe but I find the personalities of poker people to be a bit annoying.

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You're spot on about poker. There's the cocky nerd type who thinks he has life figured out because he can make $20 an hour outwitting boomer gambling addicts. There's the casino lifer type like the guys you'd see on TV - I haven't watched in many years but Chino Rheem, David Pham, Greg Raymer come to mind. And the guys who lose money are a total mixed bag of degeneracy.

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Gambling

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Sidenote: do you find it strange how rDrama attracts both horrifying vampires who never see sunlight and daywalkers like yourself who manage to go to grad school, hold down jobs, even raise children? Do you consider yourself a dysfunctional person who is good at masking it, or a normal guy with one fricked up hobby?

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I think I'm a normal guy with one fricked up hobby but I've had it for a long time and I developed it when I was young and much less functional, going on like /pol/ and that kind of thing.

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I think most people spend rDrama time watching TV.

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No??

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Oh ok, maybe baking then?

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Model planes/trains are an old man hobby. You can be as neurodivergent as you want. I'd do it if I had the skills. Especially planes, all the liveries and history. It's cool shit.

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That's not a bad idea. Can def get better at it over time. The problem is that my son will find them and smash them up bc he's a toddler. But that's kind of fun anyway idk.

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Just put them on a shelf. Buy some cheap/low skill ones and he can play with them

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Golf

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