Here is the thing. I test hypnosis on and off here and there, and over time I sometimes get messages from the dream state. Usually the messages were some simple things like "here is a story idea" or "Here is another cool story idea" or "whoops sleep paralysis." little signals like the last few moments of a dream where something interesting happens and still feels profound when you wake up.
What happened over time however, is that those last moments of dreams became less abstract and more like direct recommendations. Like you know the bicameral brain theory? Where one side of your brain is giving instructions and the other side of your brain is perceiving it as an outside voice from beyond yourself? Something like that but more with my subconscious directly telling me that I am wrong about something or not, and me waking up and going over what I am told I was wrong about, and realizing the dream advisor voice is correct.
Here is where things took a turn though. In my most recent self hypnosis/ nap session, I appear to have gone through a hypnotic regression ( simple explanation for hypnotic regression - going through locked memories in a hypnotic state, memories you cannot normally access ) rather than just a random dream advice message ( I was trying for hypnotic transcendent experience), and that regression state told me a story that does not match up with what I remember of my past but would match up with the theoretical timeline of my life and all that happened.
So I come from a third world nation. We have had A lot, and I mean ALOT, of change in our values and how we treat the people around us. From a 1st world point of view, the third world may still be very backwards, but from a third world perspective, every generation the third world has been busy stuffing in a single generation time frame about 100 years of western cultural and social change at once, to catch up on the western ideas that work. For example - In the west you might have stories of your grandfather beating your dad half dead or your great grandfather beating your grandfather half dead on a whim, but by your time you are trying to give your kid a time out to sit in their room as a lesson to take your car without permission and get caught by the cops for speeding.
Well, you take that level of cultural change and you fit it within a single generation, two at the very longest timescale, and you have got the rate at which culture is changing in the 3rd world. So the very same parent who might have been using you like a gym punching bag while you were 8-9 would be trying to learn to not raise his voice at you just because they are frustrated by the time you are in your 20s.
Now that the background information is filled in, here is my dream hypnosis regression comes in. In it was a message for me, and the message was that one of my parents is supposed to have been a crazy psycho on a whole other level than the worst that I remember about them. That they were a crazy psycho to the point that there is a clear gap between how different and fricked up my life was before I was 8 years old and after I was 8 years old, even though I remember almost nothing from before 8 years old.
Here is the problem with that dream though. It felt like it was the truth, but I don't remember the level of psycho that the dream was telling me one of my parents were in the very beginning, but, and this is an important but, I have enough memories of my parents to know that they became less violent and shittier in their anger every single year over time and the process of becoming less aggressive is still going on till today, and if I looked at the theoretical model of their behavior getting worse with every single year even beyond the earliest point where I can remember a bad memory, it suggests an 8 year time span where I would have absolutely ended up living with pure demons for a few days to weeks every year. In theory that pattern perfectly holds based on the pattern from 9 year old to the 20s that I do remember. Taking that pattern back I would in theory absolutely be living with psychopaths where it is a miracle that half my skull isn't crushed in and I can still speak.
But, here is the second part of the problem. My skull isn't half crushed in, and I can still speak, and the only evidence I have that "it never even began" is a theoretical model that fits, along with a dream telling me things were a lot worse than I will ever even be able to remember. It is like a case of profiling where the profile fits, but I have no 1st hand evidence to support the accusation.
For all I know the hpyno dream could just be completely made up, and actually just a dream filling in random blanks based on my subconscious storytelling mind. Creating a random tragedy possibly where none exists. To make matters worse, I come from a save face culture, which means that even if I asked people in my family about it, they would either label it as not half as bad as whatever I have in mind, or deny the existence of any suffering completely.
At the end of the day, now I am stuck with a revealed truth about my past that may not even be a truth, that has a profound impact on how I view my existence, creating change, and yet for all I know that message about a deep dark past from the subconscious mind is a complete made up fabrication.
Conclusion:
Hypnotic regression may or may not be real, may or may not be filling your mind with made up nonsense, but the experience certainly will feel like the truth.
Wouldn't recommend unless you can handle that uncertainty and an alternate truth to your existence that doesn't match up with how you have lived your life so far.
@Redactor0 from what I remember you like Spooky adjacent content.
So rdrama what do you think?
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I'm going for "it's a dream, that didn't' happen".
I have a family member who has genuine psychological problems, and has crafted a theory that explains for them why things turned out the way they did, which includes abusive family. Except I was there, and it didn't happen like that.
They had a lot of physical health problems as a kid, missed a lot of school, and didn't have a lot of self-confidence. When the misery memoirs ("A Child Called It" and so on) were at the height of popularity, they absolutely hoovered those up. I think they then began to weave this explanation of "The reason I feel like shit and my life is shitty is because I too was abused".
I'm not claiming family life was perfect, and like OP says, the parents came of a generation where things were a lot different about corporal punishment and child rearing. But the things they are claiming happened just didn't happen, because they are physically impossible to have happened. And when confronted with that, my family member retreats into denial and "you weren't' there".
But the thing is, I was there at the times and places they claim 'such and such a thing happened'. Of course, now that means I too am abusive to them (because I don't believe them and because I challenge their version of reality) and they're going around claiming I am a danger to them and they are afraid for their life.
So don't destroy your life because "well I messed around with hypnosis and a dream told me my parents were psychos even though I don't remember a thing about it".
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you're fricking bananas if you think I'm reading all that, take my downmarsey and shut up idiot
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I agree with you. I would never strain my relationship with my family. The only reason I ever strained by relationship with my family is by mentioning the bad shit that did happen and being repeatedly told its their personal matter and I don't get an opinion on it, and that if it was so bad then why didn't I do something about it. ( I was 12 or 13 or 10 but apparently I am supposed to be getting in the middle of family disputes at that age. )
I already have enough real reasons to both despise my parents from the bottom of my heart and to love my parents for the sacrifices they make. I suppose that is what family is, watching people treat you like shit in ways that would get anybody else jailed and then make up for it by making sacrifices that nobody else would make. Which brings up the question of what about situations where you have to make the unprecedented sacrifices because of the unprecedented fricked up shit you did, which is not the case for all bad things, but for some of them? What about those few cases?
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