I hate when people think you should always love one another and let go of everything. I think letting go to an extent is good, however I think things like revenge can be necessary. If someone pulls some absolute butthole behaviour, unless they get something just as bad or even worse in return they aren't going to learn. It's not your job to be always understanding and nice to people constantly if they are being a mega shit stain in your life. Apologising and talking things through when appropriate should be done but it isn't always what can be done and isn't always the best solution. Sometimes it's about not letting people walk all over you and maybe some might argue that doesn't make you any better than them but I don't think that's always the case. Sometimes, revenge CAN be there best way to move on. A sense of resolution if done right.
And another note. I think if you don't like someone pretending to be their friend so that your "a nice person" can be an even bigger peepeehead move than just maybe rather limiting interactions with that person. Maybe it's a workmate that gets on your nerves. A friend of a friend. But either way, pretending you like them at the end of the day is deceitful in a way especially if you let them believe your friends. I'm not saying to hate on them, especially if they aren't necessarily doing harm and it's more just a clashing of personalities or beliefs. Some people try so hard to do it but it doesn't make them look as sweet as they think it does and instead you end up looking like a fake and shallow person.
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Spend time around people you like. Show your immediately family grace. Extended family are more like friends, be willing to ghost if they annoy you.
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I think I would if the people I enjoy being around don't all end up ghosting me after 6 months (Boohoo nobody loves me everybody leaves me and I am always in the right
) I think I am hateful since I have very poor social skills and so lose the friends I make probably due to poor social awareness (I am sure there are other reasons why it fails however they all liked to pretend nothing has changed or was wrong etc and so I have to play the guessing game). I try my best to enjoy spending time with my family though because even if I get upset easily and don't speak much I appreciate them always doing things in my best interest and being loving.
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