Woman oddly asks question she doesn't want to know the answer to. Self-confidence is DESTROYED by the BRUTALLY HONEST answer.

So, I have been seeing this guy four weeks now. Everything seemed great at first, and this was the first guy I met in a while who I felt a strong connection with. That all took a turn yesterday.

I had recently bought some leather leggings that I thought looked great on my figure. When I wore them on our date, I thought he would give me a compliment. He didn't. He's never given me a compliment on any of our dates, which I thought strange at first because normally guys will say something along the lines of I look nice, but he's never said anything like that to me, even though I have given him compliments.

Later, I asked him what he thought of my outfit and he said he didn't like it. I asked him if he liked any of the outfits I have worn. He said no. Mildly annoyed now, I asked him well what outfits does he find attractive.

He proceeded to send pictures of women with hourglass figures wearing bodycon dresses. It felt like he was telling me that my body and the way I dress wasn't good enough for him so I should completely change myself for him.

I have also grown up constantly hearing people tell me how less attractive I am than my sister. So, I am highly sensitive to people telling me they don't like the way I dress, my physical features and body.

I felt pissed off with him and asked him if I don't meet his standard of female beauty why is he even bothering with me then because I don't plan to change how I dress or style myself for him. He responded with a facepalm emoji.

Now I have conflicting feelings. On the one hand, I really did like him but I feel so hurt that he doesn't seem accept me for who I am and wants me to change and conform to the Instagram model standard of beauty.

She seems pretty insecure, I feel bad for her tbh. Let's continue:

You aren't overreacting but you are kinda projecting onto him. He might not be a fan of your outfits but that doesn't he wants you to change who you are to accomadate his taste. Just because the outfits he sent you had women with body types that are different from yours didn't mean he doesn't like your body type. You asked him a question and he answered but you didn't like his answer. He could have been more careful with your feelings but this whole situation blew up quick af. You can drop him if you want but is this actually an issue? Is him being a great guy up to this point suddenly not matter because of your contrasting taste in women clothing?

Maybe I was projecting on to him, but if that was the case why didn't he just explain that to me like you did? Sending a face palm emoji felt so low-effort from him.

Dude sounds like kind of an r-slur tbh. Is he a catch?

I think he's only seeing me because he can't get dates with women more attractive than me.

He told me I was the first woman he's matched with in ages. So, now I feel he's only going on dates with me because he can't find what he's really attracted to.

I liked this guy for his personality initially, but if Reddit is supporting this guy's right to be brutally honest then I should be brutally honest too. I am actually more attractive than him because I am in shape through regular exercise whilst he has quite a lot of belly fat. He also has a receding hairline. He's admitted to me that I am the first date he's got in months. He has standards for the type of women who wouldn't look at him twice on the street.

What the frick is going on here? She's fit and got style, and wears leather leggings. She wears classy dresses, too:

I thought I do wear classy dresses. This is the type of dresses I usually wear.

The dress:

Classy!

Honestly, I'm sort of on the foids side here as insane as she is. Or, more accurately, I'm on the side that this dude must be even more r-slurred than her. Still, in summation:

Get some cats, problem solved 😎

I already have one.

Marsey wins again!