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AITA
for rejecting my boyfriend's
proposal because I'd lose my health insurance and alimony?
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Total Foid Death. NOW
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Her retirement fund is the shit she got in the divorce (assuming she gets half their stuff, which is fine), not his ongoing efforts after their marriage has been dissolved by the state. Holy frick I hate alimony
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In Texas, they just give them half your shit and then they frick off. And you are straight up encouraged to shoot someone for trying to steal your car. Such a good state.
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That has its downsides too. My buddy is stuck paying for his bi polar mother cause he's dad was addicted to crazy kitty and fricked off to be a fishing guide in south Texas.
His bi-polar mother took a significant toll on his own marriage that just ended. Luckily he got divorced before having children.
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also like how did his father actually expect to not pay alimony in a state with no-fault divorce lol
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... uh, so I think that yeah male children of a scrote must pay alimony to his ex wife after he dies.
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Some people have said that in that state, retirement is also counted in alimony
so she is literally set for life
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I have no idea why people murder their wives
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They can't give her half of his MD, that's why the revenue stream exists. Dumping your spouse after they pay for your graduate school should not be a no-brainer financial lifehack.
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Does it say she paid for his graduate school?
Even if this was a thing it makes no sense to have a constant revenue stream as a result of that. You'd be entitled to the amount paid + extra for time and labor and that's it at most.
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Well sure I guess they could also award her a massive lump sum payment but I doubt that's what you're looking for.
Again, the principle is simple: The wealth accumulated in the relationship is not just about financial instruments and physical capital as well. It can include human capital that cannot be equitably liquidated in a divorce (or bankruptcy, which is why student loan debts cannot be discharged), so instead the courts award an amount based on the ongoing proceeds of those assets, eg. income.
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The whole point is that the extra compensation for human capital lost isn't as dramatic as your making it out to be. At most it comes out to be the opportunity cost of giving up whatever job you were qualified for at the time. If you're not working directly with your spouse as part of their profession it doesn't make sense to be entitled to half of it. You know whatever lump sum would not equal the decades of payments seen in this case.
Again, this is basically irrelevant if the party involved didn't pay for the graduate school loans. The whole system made sense in an era where wives didn't have the same opportunities to make money while still being burdened with kids. Today it doesn't make sense to scale the stay-at-home-parent's alimony to whatever their spouses income level is, because the job does not have that wide of a range in value between families.
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She's right though. The scrote would have never been able to pursue that career without her
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I am no longer asking.
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I'm a medical spouse; This isn't that unusual for long-term “first wives” who were there during medical school and residency; if the split is amicable they're often provided for voluntarily because they're much more financially trustworthy than the 2nd or 3rd wives (very common to cycle though) who are marrying immediately into your money and status; first wives are like the friends a celebrity had “before they were famous” they're a better emergency contact or executor of your estate vs gold-diggers.
Sad that most moids will only experience bitter divorce :(
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idk man I'm not saying she deserves alimony but that's a shitty thing to do to your spouse. She supported him and then he didn't return that loyalty. That's not very keyed.
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