Maybe I should have been more tactful or understanding. But I wasn't. And I don't feel particularly bad about it. I knew that dating again after my LTR would be challenging, but I didn't expect to hear these pathetic, rehearsed routines that sound like a testosterone-deficient AI chatbot.
I've known this guy slightly for several years. We're in sort of adjacent friend groups, and he's nice-looking in a way that isn't too intimidating. He seemed like a safe, friendly option...right up until he immediately started babbling about wanting children, fishing, his "values," family, babies, and fishing. Also fishing. I mentioned that I didn't have any children, and his response was: "Well, you could if you wanted to...right? Like, there's nothing physically stopping you...?"
My response (see post title) didn't even phase him, and I just quietly filed him away as someone I had to tolerate until I could somehow excuse myself. Which I did with all haste.
There is nothing—literally nothing—that kills attraction faster than opening a date with a recruiting pitch for a woman's uterus. You want to have a family? That's nice. I want a new inkjet printer and an electric car that doesn't need to recharge.
What really grinds my gears is that I KNOW there's some grimy "dating coach" out there, as usual, who's telling men that talking about babies makes our ovaries light up like Christmas trees for first-date s*x. It's insulting, and I'd almost rather a guy respectfully ask for s*x on a first date. I really, really hope it gets better than this.
CONTEXT: I'm 24. We walked on the beach for 30-40 minutes in a public place.
Asking if you want kids someday is fine. Asking if your uterus is in good working order is not.
If he wants kids and you don't it's best to find out quickly so you can part ways and find partners whose wants align with yours.
it's better to waste time 
Yeepp.
That being said, doing it on the first date is a bit too fast I think. Wait until 2nd or 3rd at least.
Nah huge waste of time if you ask me.
Like sure at OP's age you can but I'm 39 - if I want kids I'm not waiting to find out if a guy I'm dating is open to kids or not - I'm finding out right now
based foid 
There probably IS some lunatic dating coach giving that advice.
But I think it's fair to ask about kids since it's a question that's usually asked on dating apps, but I guess he could have said it in a less... weird way. It's a deal breaker for a lot of people. For the record, I'm woman that doesn't want kids.
but when you say you don't want kids on the first date, it's empowering 
I mean, are we mad that he let you know before the first date was over that he wasn't worth any more time? Or should he have waited until many dates in when y'all are liking spending all this time together with this person who doesn't bring up anything controversial (yet) then realize you could've been out finding someone better suited for you?
Absolutely the way he said thing was weird AF, but I'd be absolutely grateful I found out right away. If I didn't want kids, I'd say “that's awesome for you. I actually don't want kids so this probably won't work out” If I do want kids, maybe I'd say “cool. I'd like to have kids of my own someone too, but it's also important to me that my future partner be there to take an equal part in raising them (ie not be gone fishin all the time). Or if I don't know if I want kids yet, “That's great you already know that. I'm not sure if I do or don't.” Or “I haven't even put any thought into that yet at this point but it sounds like you're absolutely sure so maybe this isn't meant to be”. Either way, see ya never ✌️
Mmm.. Red flag. Seems he does not really want to get to know you …just sizing up your breeding abilities. Is he rw fundie? That would fit.
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20 somethings start off with kids? I thought that was 30s - 40s age group. Anytime a guy has asked even coworkers I am honest. Sadly probably not in the cards for me due to health issues and my constant hormone imbalances with hashimotos. Yes I am very aware it could happen but statistically given I am on the asexual spectrum highly unlikely. 24 girl you got plenty of fishes in the sea 😜.
Trans lesbian here. I'm not old enough to be thinking about children, but if I were I don't think I'd be asking my girlfriend about kids on the first date?? Like that's so weird. I'd want to be in a committed long term relationship with someone I know I'm compatible personality-wise with before I even START that conversation. Like get to know the person first, you want kids this badly but you don't care about making sure the mother of your children is someone you know, love, and trust? Even if you've known them for years, I think it would still be prudent to make sure you work as a couple first, no? This is so strange to me.
>Trans lesbian here. I'm not old enough to be thinking about children
lol
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PalestinePingsalot Bipoccutetwinkr-slur 1yr ago #4928374 spent 0 currency on pingsSo the people chuds are always dunking on are a group of child r*pe victims?
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Yes. And its a good thing
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They are the victims and the male feminists
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Mogus!
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proof that gays have all been molested??
that's right, you can't
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I swear to god the look on the kid's face makes me cry laughing every time.
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good marsey!
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I have nothing further to add other than I love the irony that a sub called TwoX is infested and overrun by r-slurred
commenting on stuff like this.
The in your face irony just always amazes me.
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LMAO really? I was going to joke here "what is LTR? Left Testicle Removal?"
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Straight male thinks a woman
would 
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want to reproduce with him when he is busy trying to act and dress 
like a cam girl.
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What the frick does this mean?
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It means she has zero actual interest in him romantically/sexually but that his interest in her should still be taken as a sign that she is attractive and desirable.
That's the entire problem. She only went on the date with him for validation because she was feeling down, the first half of the post is all rationalizing how she ended up breathing the same air as him. The entire post could be rewritten as "I gave a scrub a chance to praise me and he actually asked me date questions, gross'.
Unfortunately, our protagonist in this story is too grill-dad pilled to see the signs of a foid who thinks she's better than him, so he asked her a real romantic question(do you want kids). To her, someone she isn't interested in asking her a question that implies he has an actual shot with her is insulting, so she gave a non-answer (I don't have kids right now)..He asked again, and she realized the evening was not going to be a free esteem boost for her raggedy butt, and left.
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Yuuuuuup same b-word would whine about dudes aren't clear enough [if it was someone she wanted to be with] but she expected this dude to slobber all over her lap for a crumbof kitty
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She thinks he's plain, lol. Just disguising it in the usual foidspeak.
A barfly once told me, "Marry down, they'll never leave you." Sometimes I think he was right.
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Impossible nowadays. They all think they are owed way more than they are worth. Social media is mindwarping with its millions of coomers.
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I'm gay so I'm on the outside, and generally don't care about women unless they're cute butches.
What happens to change that in the future? What has to happen for that to become balanced? Repeal Roe? What kind of blow do women have to be dealt to have them realize they've gone too far?
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That's how you make a problem worse, Mithrandir.
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the beatles guy married a one legged lady and she still hated him and took him to the cleaners
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Guy was absolutely correct. Not just because of the leaving thing, you'll be so much happier every single day.
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Sour grapes cope for uggos.
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lean, slightly muscular but not too much
goofy, makes her laugh
well groomed in a middle class way, either clean shaven or soy beard
holds no strong opinions on anything
somewhat attractive face, but not cartoonishly masculine
basically jerma
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"I have no self esteem or interest in taking personal responsibility for my actions so I'm settling for a highly compromised version of what would be considered a dateable moid"
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Lol she's not even settling here. She's halfway through dumping him. She's just branch swinging.
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She doesn't think he's hot, so she's coping about giving him a chance
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It means he looks like a stable beta buxxer to settle for after the CC
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"He's not Chad, but at least he's not a neckbeard."
Sounds like she thinks she was out of his league.
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Scrawny
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If a foid ever describes me like this publicly I will eat a shotgun
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Literally unable to make up her mind.
She KNOWs it, it must be true! Andrew Tate himself infamously said "If you wanna get into her panties ASAP, sit on the beach and talk about an 18-year commitment"
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She's trying to imply High test guys take time and care about feelings…
I think these woman genuinely feel they're losing the male culture war because of word choices
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Or is she saying she'll overlook her disqualifiers for a chad?
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I didn't even notice the contradiction in the last quote
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ngmi
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Little late for that sweaty
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Transbians be speedrunning having kids at 40 so they can kill themselves at 45.
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What does that actually mean?
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I DON'T KNOW.
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“Dude here”
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People are becoming fricking unhinged and desocialised, especially zoomers, especially foids that post on unhinged mentally ill subreddits like twox.
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Dude got what he needed. Despite the immature redditor-tier response, he knows not to waste his time
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Man imagine reading Twox as a
man who is looking for advice. If you were to attempt to aggregate it the only conclusion you would come to is that women have no idea what they're talking about… which is correct but darn
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This is how you create giga misogyny
We should make a bait post directing reddit kids there
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Being white and playing video games is a short pipeline that leads to learning Japanese and raping your sister
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Asking if you want kids someday is fine. Asking if your uterus is in good working order is not.
If he wants kids and you don't it's best to find out quickly so you can part ways and find partners whose wants align with yours.:
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There probably IS some lunatic dating coach giving that advice.
But I think it's fair to ask about kids since it's a question that's usually asked on dating apps, but I guess he could have said it in a less... weird way. It's a deal breaker for a lot of people. For the record, I'm woman that doesn't want kids.:
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I mean, are we mad that he let you know before the first date was over that he wasn't worth any more time? Or should he have waited until many dates in when y'all are liking spending all this time together with this person who doesn't bring up anything controversial (yet) then realize you could've been out finding someone better suited for you?
Absolutely the way he said thing was weird AF, but I'd be absolutely grateful I found out right away. If I didn't want kids, I'd say “that's awesome for you. I actually don't want kids so this probably won't work out” If I do want kids, maybe I'd say “cool. I'd like to have kids of my own someone too, but it's also important to me that my future partner be there to take an equal part in raising them (ie not be gone fishin all the time). Or if I don't know if I want kids yet, “That's great you already know that. I'm not sure if I do or don't.” Or “I haven't even put any thought into that yet at this point but it sounds like you're absolutely sure so maybe this isn't meant to be”. Either way, see ya never ✌️:
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Mmm.. Red flag. Seems he does not really want to get to know you …just sizing up your breeding abilities. Is he rw fundie? That would fit.:
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20 somethings start off with kids? I thought that was 30s - 40s age group. Anytime a guy has asked even coworkers I am honest. Sadly probably not in the cards for me due to health issues and my constant hormone imbalances with hashimotos. Yes I am very aware it could happen but statistically given I am on the asexual spectrum highly unlikely. 24 girl you got plenty of fishes in the sea 😜.:
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Trans lesbian here. I'm not old enough to be thinking about children, but if I were I don't think I'd be asking my girlfriend about kids on the first date?? Like that's so weird. I'd want to be in a committed long term relationship with someone I know I'm compatible personality-wise with before I even START that conversation. Like get to know the person first, you want kids this badly but you don't care about making sure the mother of your children is someone you know, love, and trust? Even if you've known them for years, I think it would still be prudent to make sure you work as a couple first, no? This is so strange to me.:
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They're more neck than person
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The background image is honestly really cool, though it would have been better if a hand was used to scale it rather than the soyjak photography technique
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God I fricking hate moids. Frick all of you. This is a perfectly reasonable post
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username ManateePub
this has to be a fake account
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I can perfectly picture this woman in my mind and I bet you can as well.
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I think this is some tik tok phrase that's just going around. I stumbled upon some basic b-word white girl youtube a couple of months ago and she said almost that exact same phrase when a guy asked if she wanted kids (she's early 30s).
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Says the foid who goes to reddit for advice & venting.
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“Excuse me Mr rdrama user, do you want kids someday”
UMMMM asking a guy about the AVAILABILITY of his PHALLUS and TESTICLES?? That's gonna be a no from me dawg
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