Boyfriend only wants s*x for his birthday and I don't feel like it
My boyfriend and I have a date planned Friday for his birthday at a very nice fancy restaurant. I bought makeup and nails and a new dress. We never get to go on dates.
He gets angry when he expects something and it doesn't go his way, so I mentioned to him that I might not feel like having s*x Friday night. Just so he can manage his expectations. I'm a single mom to a young child and I also work with kids so I am touched out, burnt out, and emotionally drained. Having s*x is the last thing I want to think about.
He of course became frustrated and said s*x was the only thing he wanted for his birthday. He said he was just doing the date for me, he didn't care whether we went on a date or not (even though he's been begging me to go on a date for months). He just wants s*x.
We went into this whole argument about it. I don't understand why he can't just go out and make some memories with me and not expect s*x afterwards. We never get to go out alone. Like ever. We can have s*x anytime. I pointed out how shallow he's being and he got so pissed he got off the phone with me.
Like we can't just go out and have a good time together without having s*x? When we can have s*x literally any other time?
Should I have s*x with him since it's his birthday even if I don't want to? It just feels icky to me.
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What the frick is "touched out"? How can someone who spends as much time as me on the internet still not keep up with the r-slurred terminology these people come up with?
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This is real and the lingo is incredibly old. It's there to describe why your wife who you keep pumping babies into doesnt want to frick after a day of wrangling 5 toddlers. When she deals with a bunch of children she doesnt want her man to act like a child in any small way. The smallest thing could cause her to make the connection and dry up. Youre supposed to help with the kids then scurry off and have her wonder if you're cheating on her (you are).
Just dump her, dont date single moms and especially dont date anyone over 25 in "child care".
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I think if your toddlers are touching you 24/7 you'd kinda like a break from being touched. I think that's a reasonable reaction. But honestly she should suck it up for the sake of the relationship and put out.
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I've always found this to be ridiculously dishonest and kind of creepy. Can new mothers really not distinguish between their toddlers platonically touching them and their husbands sexually touching them or is it just a convenient excuse to not put out for another reason (hormones, fatigue, feeling unattractive etc)? You never hear about daycare workers refusing to frick their husbands because too many kids touched them at work today.
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This is parenting lingo and is something you would just understand if you had to take care of young kids. They constantly need your attention and toddlers in particular just love to touch you with their jam hands. Eventually you get fed up and just
want to curb stomp a toddlerneed some time to yourself.Jump in the discussion.
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