Hi, I'm 31M. I'm writing from the future to tell you this young man's jealousy has absolutely nothing to do with you or your work and everything to do with his own insecurity. If you weren't working as a bikini barista he'd be mad about you hanging out with male friends, or something else like that. Time to have a hard talk about how his insecurities are not your problem (boy, therapy sure is great), or end it. Good luck!

Ahh, I see what's going on here. Historically, this kind of scenario is more common with foids: they start dating a guy, and then want to change him into something else. Then, after they change him, they don't love/respect him anymore. A lot of times they have underlying attachment patterns from childhood, towards unavailable men. Once they get a man to be emotionally available to them, he's not appealing anymore, and all they see is his flaws.

In this case, it's the moid who fell for a hottie in a stripper-adjacent job and he was all AWOOGA AWOOGA when she first started giving him attention. Then, once they have bonded emotionally, he wants her to change. But if she does, the same thing will happen: he will lose interest and get bored, and go looking for a topless maid or something...

The linked reply from the 31-year-old soyboy is actually completely, 100% right, in this case.

The dude started dating a woman who makes a great living doing sexualized work. Now he can't get it up because she does sexualized work. 100% on him, 100% his fault, 0% hers.

If he had started dating someone in a context of shared conservative values about modesty or sexuality or something, and then she decided she wanted to hoe it up, then he might have a valid complaint that she was changing the rules, or something. He would still be wrong for being an anti-s*x loser (s*x is here to stay Christcucks, get over it. Sorry, not sorry). But at least he would have a fair complaint that was breaking the boundaries they started under.

But this is 100.000% insecurity on his part, and 0% on her. He thought she was hot before, but now that he has emotionally bonded, he wants her to change. But once she changes, if she changes, then he'll start looking for hoes again. And then he'll be sad that they are hoes, and want them to wear burkas and stay home, but then he'll get bored of them, and go out looking for a hoe.

There is probably no way to make this relationship work, but if it's ever going to work, he needs to do some work in therapy to learn about himself and what he really wants. Simping for hoes is such a sad and hopeless life, because once the simp lands the hoe, his inner simp comes out, all whiny and needy and insecure. If the hoe tones down her public sexiness, he loses interest. If she keeps it up, he gets more needy and manipulative and infects the whole relationship with patterns of shame.

If you're gonna date hoes, you need to be into the hoe life.