I recently went to a queer/sapphic event. I had to go out of town for it, there's so very few wlw events in my area, if any at all.
The amount of cishet men who showed up, had the event explained to them, and still paid cover to stand awkwardly in the corners or tried in vain to hit on attendees was baffling.
One guy just stood uncomfortably close to a couple who were dancing and kissing, and he just stared.
The people working the door did their best to explain that maybe this event isn't the best one for them but nope. They wanted to come invade a feminine and queer space even though they were none of these things.
I used to run these types of events and we were never able to explicitly say cishet men weren't welcome because they'd get us shut down for being exclusionary.
Why? Why do they do this. Well. I know why. But on what fricking planet is this acceptable?
Just let us have this one thing.
the OP is 38 AFAB, homoromantic and omnisexual
A person who is homoromantic is romantically attracted to people who are the same or a similar gender as them.
People who identify as omnisexual are attracted to those of all gender identities and sexual orientations.
also this:
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In the US, there are some cases in which discrimination is legal. It would be legal in this case if this qualifies as a "private club."
Personally, @transb-word went too a sapphic event (people were saying that @transb-word should go). @transb-word say this as a feminist ally: @transb-word came late and left early. When @transb-word arrived, one group was doing a DnD oneshot and the other was playing a game called thirsty sword lesbians. That's cool @transb-word guess, but @transb-word just didn't click with the people there. @transb-word don't play DnD, and the lesbian game seemed kind of weird too me.
This wasn't a romantic event btw, and there was no kissing or anything. There also weren't any straight men there, even though it was advertised quite indiscriminately. The women also weren't conventionally attractive by the standards of the male gaze; @transb-word doubt a man would get anything out of gawking.
@transb-word is inclined too say that this is all fake because it just seems so unlikely.
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