Or more recently, the “incident” that made me want to write this post happened Last Thursday. My husband and I often watch a movie together on Sunday nights after our daughter goes to bed. But sometimes we change it up to do movie on Friday or Saturday, or skip it once in a while if one of us has something else they need to do.
So he asks me “are we still gonna watch a movie this weekend?” I tell him I don't know (because it's late in the evening, end of the week, and I'm just tired. I wanted to just see what happens and what we feel like). He says “well what day do you want to watch a movie?” Again, I tell him I don't know. He asks me another question “what movie do you want to watch?” (Which is actually a double question of what movie I want to watch and what to have for dinner because we usually make a dinner themed with the movie).
So I snap at him that I don't know, I just want to wait and see what I feel like this weekend, and I'm tired of making all the darn plans. He says “what? Are you kidding me? You are the queen of needing a plan for everything.” So I just said “ok descisions then, I'm tired of making decisions.” He just said “whatever” and that was the end of it (for now).
Do any other women relate? I don't even know exactly what I'm trying to describe. I just hate how even the best of men all seem to be like this.
STOP ASKING ME WHAT I WANT, THIS IS SO FRUSTRATING
it's so hard to be a woman why are moids like this
My ex would casually state that x or y needed to be done and expect that I would do it. Finally one day I said "feel free to do it yourself' and he lost his mind.
I can't wrap my head around the entitlement most men have when they have a female partner.
imagine asking your partner to do something. the entitlement of moids truly knows no bounds
For our son's 2nd birthday party I decided to not do anything and see what happened. Nothing happened. People came and there was no food and no plan. I let him scramble and play host. I stayed in the kitchen and pretended to prepare food. When I told my therapist she said, “don't you think you set him up to fail?” No? Because I did what he would have done. Why is it okay if not expected that he does nothing, but if I do nothing, I'm just a sneaky sneaky b-word? I can't imagine what a wonderful world men must live in where the only expectation of them is to just show up.
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Years ago, my STBX and I went on vacation. I made it very clear that I would not be planning any of our excursions. Multiple times. On arrival at our hotel, from the shower, he yells, "So, what's our plan for today?" That was not the only vacation that started with an argument.
so, what do you want to do?
I WANT A FRICKING DIVORCE
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Pretty obvious she said she would do stuff for the party and that's why the therapist responded that way.
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The obvious point here being that people showed up to the party. Meaning that she initiated the planning and invited everyone.
That's obviously not "what he would have done", if he invited people he would have clearly understood his role in the planning.
If she wanted to prove her point she should have not planned a party at all. Not sent out invitations and then "stayed in the kitchen and pretended to prepare food." because that's not lazy that's directly and obviously malicious to both your husband and child.
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it sounds like she planned half a party and then forgot to do more and is now trying to pin it on the husband
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It sounds like she chews him the frick out every time something isn't the way she wants it so he just gave up and let's her plan it. Guarantee this guy has just given up trying to make her happy
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I think it's more she planned the party to happen, then got angry at her husband and decided to 'teach him a lesson' by not doing anything after the invitations were sent out. No forgetting, entirely malicious and using her 2 year old as a pawn.
Also, notice she didn't go and socialise with the other parents or spend time with her kid, she martyred herself in the kitchen pretending to help while doing nothing. She sounds like a joy.
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I'm literally trying to give her the benefit of the doubt here as much as I can, if she actually did this she's a complete POS
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Considering what she said to her therapist and that she stopped seeing them, I'm not inclined to give the benefit of the doubt.
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How was the husband supposed to understand that he was supposed to do everything if she pretended to do it lol
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If you can't read her mind you don't deserve her
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She didn't mention that she has a job in the post which she would have done if she had a job sooooooooooo
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SAHMs are the laziest mfs. How can you have a washing machine, dishwasher and vacuum and complain about any aspect of homemaking? Your nan did that shit by hand every day.
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Where does it say that? BIPOC
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She literally lied about doing the cooking which is the most important part lol
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