I've talked about this before and I'm open about it, but I was sexual abused for many months at the age of 8 years old.
To this day my sexuality is extremely disordered. I had a decades long struggle with suicidal depression in late childhood through early adulthood, until I came clean with a therapist when i was 20 or so and started on a finally successful cocktail of meds.
I've also been addicted to pornography since I was 13 which I'm still having trouble breaking.
I hadn't thought of the person who abused me in decades, i moved and was no longer around them soon after, but an old friend recently mentioned them in a business context.
I pondered- why not throw my life away and kill them?
It wasn't a particularly serious thought, but the capacity to have such an emotion has shook my ego quite a bit.
How do I order my heart to forgive someone for this?
I am very good at formalizing logical and rational beliefs but I am lost at truly controlling my hearts whims.
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as I see it (t. atheistcel) it's a question of willpower. Perhaps god can help, maybe jesus (idk). Honestly this is the sort of thing I'd address to any clergy you can lay hands on, not a homosexual cat dating website.
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