The point is, due to that and being able to hang out with them (at work, at school, wherever they were) all day every day, he was very very close to this friend group and every single person in it. When he died, they helped me with a lot of things, especially arranging his memorial. Time passed, people moved on and to different cities, and then Covid struck. I began to notice that the friends would hang out with each other, and never invite me. I'd still get invited IF there was going to be a group gathering, but no one ever tried to hang out with me one on one, or invited me along if a few hanged out unless the entire group was expected to be present.
"You know what, you're actually very nice! People (meaning other members of the group) are like "oh no it's [me], wonder what drama she's stirring today", but you're not really like that at all".
And I'm just... broken hearted. Like my heart is shattered. I never burden them. Never. I keep my life SECRET to not be a burden, I learned very early on in my life that no one cares about what you go through, they just want you to make them feel good about themselves. I'm neurodivergent, it's a lesson I seem to have to keep learning and learning and learning the hard way, because when I HAD to inform them of stuff that affected them too, I somehow got classified as "drama stirring".
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"The people I chose to never hang out with don't like me very much. This is problematic"
You mentioned getting a babysitter for 1 time every 8 months, you could have done it more. You chose not to because you're probably an anti-social negative nancy because you are a redditor after all (and frankly they're probably glad you didn't come). Friends are like plants, you have to tend to them. Don't get mad at them because you would never find time to socialize with them
She also mentioned this happened when covid started. How much do you want to bet she was a paranoid covid freak?
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neighbor if your friends abandoned you for having to take care of your baby you got shit friends.
I got friends I can still talk to with 2-3 years gaps, or atleast they got me they can contact with that gap. Just because you are in a shit society doesn't mean you gotta lower your own standards for the bare minimum.
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They didn't abandon her, she abandoned them. They stopped inviting her because she would never come anyway
She writes blogs about her personal problems on TwoX, she's 100% insufferable to be around. She even said she has to consciously think about not complaining about life to them all the time and even then still admits she would
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They didn't even stop inviting her either, she complained that the friends of her late husband didn't invite her individually to hang out lol.
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