On reading the title, you might feel bad for the guy, but I think the pity will evaporate when you read his post. (Sorry for the wall of text, the entire thing is a gold mine) Cue the sad violin
My wife and I have been together about 12 years, married for 8. We have had an "open" marriage from the beginning and it worked well for awhile.
However, at some point it began to become toxic primarily because of some unresolved s*x and porn addiction issues on my end that became a coping mechanism for the tremendous amount of stress we have had (medical school for her and a demanding career for me, a toxic work environment, and two kids). In addition to diving into porn and sexual fantasy, I let my personal health slip and struggled with impulsive spending and hoarding. These issues were always present but magnified as our life stresses increased. The s*x addiction began to impact our social relationships and I remained oblivious to all of this. Finally, at some point, my wife had little sexual interest in me. We talked about therapy frequently, but we both put it off due to time and money and my inability to see just how bad it was needed and her inability to convey that I was in need of help. A year and a half ago she started dating a guy and I could tell it was getting very emotional, which was crossing our "open marriage" boundaries. I conveyed that I was uncomfortable with the relationship and she lashed out that it was the only thing that made her happy. She asked if I wanted her to end it (clearly to me, I did), but I told her I did not want to be responsible for taking away something that made her happy and I had made my feelings clear.
translation: i couldn't stop jerking my ding-dong and am blaming it on muh stress
translation: i got fat and spent all of our money on soyshit, but it totes isnt my fault, it's muh stress
shocker!
Oh no! Not the """""""""boundaries"""""""""! also i like how getting nutted in isn't crossing boundaries, but sharing your feelings is, lmaooo
A few weeks ago, she told me she is considering divorce. She initially said it was because of the financial and health issues coupled with no longer being happy without feeling guilty about her boyfriend. She then opened up about the role her bf had played in supporting her during our difficult marriage. She also told me that after speaking with her new therapist that she believes I have sexually assaulted her through coercion and manipulation (she has a lot of guilt in general and in this case, a false sense of needing to be a "good Catholic wife" and what she thought was her obligagltion) on several occasions. She now says that the pain from that is too great and she is not sure she can forgive me.
tbh I'm not exactly surprised lol who would want to have consensual s*x with this guy
RELIGION is the thing that's fricking up the marriage!
I asked her to break up with her bf while we figure things out. He picked her up and they went to talk and she said she broke up with him. I later found out she was still texting him at work and they were talking on the phone on her way home. I also found out the night they "broke up" that they had made some sort of plan that keeps coming up. I confronted her and she called him on speaker to break up. This time it seemed to be at least real for as long as we are sorting things out, but they have exchanged some texts once since then (1 week ago).
bro its over lol
We are starting Discernment Therapy and I want to keep the marriage together. I think with individual and couples therapy we can heal and move forward. I feel this is best for us, but more importantly for our 2 young children, but I worry that over the last year, her bf has used our struggles and stresses to play the hero and manipulate the situation in his favor. Now she seems to think these "new love" feelings for him would be lasting and she does not seem able to look at his flaws and consider how they could be a problem in 5+ years. She also does not seem to consider that she has put him on a pedestal, but only spent a few hours with him a week with the occasional weekend when I take the kids to our parents without her (I was unaware that's what she was doing and they tried to hide it). She then compares me to him, but I am the one navigating her anxiety and depression constantly and living the stresses of our careers and caring for our children constantly. I have grown bitter about her relationship and that probably shows. She has become very focused on herself (not all bad), but specifically working with her therapist on "Being happy without feeling guilty". She has always been selfless and family focused, but that has shifted during the relationship with her recent bf. We are starting Discernment Therapy, but I have no idea if she truly wants to figure it out or if she has already made up her mind and is just doing this to appease our Caholic families (who do not know about any of the open marriage or her recent relationship). I am very lost and looking for any helpful advice or resources (already starting individual therapy for myself).
neighbor the bar is really fricking low to be a hero here lol
speck, meet plank
b-word you caused the depression!!!!!
yeah no shit
lol he seethes, plus it's the same thing he was doing
SURPRISINGLY, redditors are roasting the shit out of him. On a cuck support forum. hahahaha
BY THE WAY I don't think this is cuckshit fantasizing simply because of how bitter and resentful the guy is, and how much he wants to paint himself as the victim while not realizing that it actually makes him more hateable.
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Whose side are you on?
!biofoids please enjoy this hot goss
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How on earth could anyone take the manβs side
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fro would u ever do a open relationship?
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No but I would turn a blind eye to a cheating husband if it were just s*x & to my advantage to do so. You?
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Why?
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If itβs just s*x it doesnβt really threaten the relationship. What you donβt want is your husband falling in love with his secretary. Keep in mind Iβm rather jaded.
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Is this a bit you're playing up for your incel simps or are you serious
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My dad damaged me :(
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I mean, I donβt tell others what to do, but it feels reasonable to not want your partner to frick other people.
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Froyo if u were my secretary I would probably buy u a grub hub gift card
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Thank you β€οΈ
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I made this argument to my friends years ago and they still "worry" about me. So, im jaded and sick because i have eyes and recognize people are weak and will do shitty things.
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Be worried
Trans lives matter
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How many times have you been cheated on?
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ily
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Pickmeisha detected!
@ThatHoeOverThere
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Hi penny.
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if Chet was there it wouldn't have gone down like that
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hi yallah dumplin
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Is that Tom Hanks?
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He looks terrible. I know heβs old now but looks sickly af
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Black woman magic requires siphoning the life force from white men
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Yeh with Oprah and Gayle. Found it on a post about Oprah and pizzagate.
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As a temporary arrangement until you find a new place to live and hole to bang cuz
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incels
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βMy wifeβs bfβ would trigger incels more than anyone, although they probably blame the foid for the dude drying up her vagina
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I'm taking neither side
She's for the streets
He became pathetic loser way before he got fat and became a coomer
He became a loser at the very moment he even thought about the possibility of not divorcing her after she mentioned open marriage
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Fr stop the steal rabbi moonstein, i aint picking a side between useless whore and usless coomer
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Idk why peoples just canβt be single. You canβt be roommates with a girl youβve fricked before
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As long as sheβs paying rent. No discounts.
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Says who
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Fricked/dated
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I'dfrick my roommate tbo
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Youβd frick a passed out girl behind a dumpster
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nah I'm not a rightoid
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Wrong
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Radical centrism is not wrong
this site is so far of original drama sub ππππ
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Zased
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I picked the foids side but I will make an attempt to side with fatso. Here you go, best I can do:
Therefore they both suck. Or wait, shit. I mean she is slightly worse
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Shes at fault too for not draining his balls daily. A woman that gives a great BJ and even the most habitual jerker will be like "You know, I dont need to jerk off atm."
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Because "sexual assault through manipulation or coercion" doesnt exist unless you're coercing with a threat of violence.
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Even I cant take his side, and im the official rdrama woman hater
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Because she most be butt ugly if she is in med school and this is the best she could do.
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I would walk out in an appointment with any doctor I found out was in an open relationship.
Like I wouldnβt have a moral objection, theyβre just gross
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Plenty of people are normal / normal looking in their college years then become unattractive moles who stop trying at life when they reach 28
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I'm on the bull's side.
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Its a womans duty to stick by her man, she should be honored killed for this shame
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Any opportunity to hate women
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Trans lives matter
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I didnt read the post so i just chose the man
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All women are the same
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It's the dramatic choice
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I was on his side until I read βopen marriage.β
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https://rdrama.net/votes/comment/option/12170
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Bussy Hunter in search of prey will take the mans side to gain unfettered access
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Not to be confused with the woman's side as women can't ever be right
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Not only does he take advantage of a cuck marriage, but he actively tries to split them apart. He knows the foid isnβt faithful too, so heβs gotta be leaving her in the dust at some point.
Itβs glorious I want to learn how to sociopathmaxx as effectively as him one day
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You know I think you might be right.
Why would any sane man want to take care of a married woman with 2 kids?
A whore at that.
You know they arenβt giving this coomer custody, and I have a feeling the wife is going to demand no visitation from the father.
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I refuse to associate myself with either of these "people"
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*ahem*
false dichotomy
trans lives matter
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A true peepee-otomy is in order.
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I am abstaining, these """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""people""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" are fricking whack
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Everyone involved should die. The man for being such a cute twink, the woman for being a whore while having kids with a cute twink, the third wheel for getting into this mess just to get some poon. Frick these "people"
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Both suck but women aren't sentient so he deserves more blame.
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If u let ur foid frick other moids ur a cuck
if u let ur moid frick other foids ur based
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I feel worse for the guy because I understand being so desperate and miserable that you'd let your wife have s*x with other men.
So I'm with the cuck, I guess.
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@FrozenChosen
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Where's the option for neither?
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