Those of us who were queer in that age--in that age, if you were nonbinary-ish or just very uncomfortable with heteronormativity you had queer theory laid out before you, which basically just says you can relax because gender is performative and who gives a frick.
Those of us who were queer in that age, me at least, loved the apache helicopter joke. An apache helicopter is pure power. The throbbing of the rotors. The maneuverability.
The rockets. The machine guns.
Cold metal... there's nothing sexy about it at all, and yet... THOKKA THOKKA THOKKA here I am, an apache helicopter.
I never actually identified as an apache attack helicopter, even at the time, but darn if I didn't think it was funny.
Then the darn morons used it as a club to make fun of nonbinary people. Ruined the joke. Ruined the meaning of the joke. That's one purpose of jokes, to discuss the serious meaning behind the obscuring force of the taboo.
Get used to it. There are people who think that this euphemism treadmill, this abuse of language rendering the previously spoken freely into a social faux pax is the result of some ideological monstrosity. In truth it's just the dynamic cycle of the social human being. The ideology is in viewing it as a hostile ideological force instead of as a turning of the seasons of our words.
Yes it sucks but don't be mad at leftists because the helicopter joke is done. Jokes have shelf lives and that's just a fact of life, don't make that the foundation of your politics or you'll be an oNline Political Character.
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That's cool
But guess what...?
I am a masculine coded attack helecopter.
my pronouns are apache/apachim/apachis
and guess what?
I'm was never fricking joking
I refuse to let lame butt right wingers take away the (COMPLETELY VALID <3) mogai gender that I as a non-neurotypical person feel the most connection to.
I'm gonna be honest. I appreciate your write up, and I'm happy the "meme" about a gender very similar to mine made you feel secure as an nb person, and I won't fault you for enjoying a joke, but uh... yeah. This is a bit yikes because it still marginalizes REAL gender possibilities, and comes off as really narrow-minded and gatekeepy of what might actually be important and a legit experience for someone. Expecially someone who isn't neurotypical and has strongly alternative feelings of gender, even more so than someone who is simply nonbinary and likely to express their gender simply on a spectrum of (masculine/feminine), as opposed to a three four, or otherwise n-dimensional gender expression. I guess what I most take issue with, is the statement that "gender is performative" when many see their gender as a very strong and real experience. To call it "performative" is almost like gaslighting, because it tells a person "hey this thing you feel and IS A PART OF YOU is actually just an act lol" when there is SO MUCH MORE TO IT THAN THAT.
ALL. GENDERS. ARE. VALID.
respect xenogenders <3
that is all
:)
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This is one of the worst posts I have EVER seen. Delete it.
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Solid work
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