A message to pregnant women β please give the baby your surname.
— Dr Charlotte Proudman (@DrProudman) August 9, 2023
You carried a baby for 9 months, gave birth, and will be responsible for that child for the rest of your life. When youβre registering the baby ask yourself: why is the fatherβs surname more important than yours?
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OP continues dunking on the scrotes:
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One day Proudman will put all the disgusting scrotes in concentration camps. Im counting down the days
The point is to make the father feel responsible for the child
That you think this is necessary says volumes about you and men in general.
Generally speaking, if a cultural practice has been around forever, it's best to exhibit some humility about it rather than assuming you know better than everyone who came before you.
The point is everyone knows the child is the mother's when she carried it in her body. That's why they take the father's surname. This whole "I carried the baby so it should have my name" is petty and childish
Yes, and that appropriates ownership of reproduction and property to the man. You could have a system like Iceland where everyone is called β<fathers name="">dottir/sonβ but substitute the mothers name instead. But that would define a matriarchal society which the men don't want.</fathers>
If you're a good Dad/parent your connection should be obvious enough without the need to have your kids named after you.
Why would you take it willingly? It's an antiquated tradition
Because her husband is presumably worth his salt and wouldn't have married her if she's going to be petty enough to go against tradition. Marriage IS tradition, that's the whole point of it.
Not willingly madam, you were coerced into taking his name by the Patriarchy.
The Patriarchy is you telling this woman she doesn't know her own mind.
That's wrong. I am a feminist. As such, I'm telling this woman she doesn't know her own mind. What her mind should be telling her is that her husband oppressed her into taking his name. He must have done. Otherwise she wouldn't have taken it.
You can tell a male feminist by his hairline
They won't be happy till everybody hates everybody.
Your husband is a loser
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I'm confused, when does this happen?
If you're not married, the mother gives her baby her last name.
If you're married, the mother gives her baby her last name (which is most of the time the same last name as the father).
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It's common in America (and I think Britain) when a man and a woman get married the women takes the husband last name and that last name ends up being the name of the child. The OP is the original tweet is saying that this is a patriarchical tradation and should be stopped. That is, woman should stop taking the last name of husbands and the baby should have the same last name as the mother.
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I am aware of the taking the name tradition lmao.
But that's not what she's saying. She's telling mothers to give their baby their last name. Which is already happening.
If they meant to say "stop taking your man's name".... then maybe they should say that?
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It probably happens sometimes but I feel like it's still uncommon in the US. But i might be missing something but isn't this what she was talking about?
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