A guy I was with at a party told a girl he “liked her boobs” and got her number??
I was at a party… Not a particularly trashy or dingy one either. Just a bunch of smart professional seeming gpeople from a relatively upscale and prestigious university mingling and dancing casually.
I meet this guy who was definitely handsome but not particularly. Tall as shit though like 6”2 or 6”3 and pretty fit with long hair. I was talking to him for a while and he was pretty cool and seemed pretty normal and all the sudden this cute normal put together girl with noticeably large boobs under her shirt walks by and he just goes “Hey.” pointing at her “you, yeah, you. I like your boobs.” It wasn't delivered very douche-ily; but obviously it's an inherently douche-y thing to say
She stood there for a second as I stood in shock and asked “Do you want my number?” and he just answered “Sure” and she gave it to him.
She could easily have walked away without any consequence he wasn't following or harassing her or anything she CHOSE and OFFERED to give him her number.
Afterward I was fricking dumbfounded and asked the guy WTF just happened and he was like “What? I complimented her and she gave me her number” and took a sip of his drink like it was nothing.
This goes against everything I know about dating and flirting and relationships and women and everything about humanity in general.
I know that some women are just into trashy guys or attracted to boldness or confidence but this is like a very attractive very sophisticated 22 year old woman who is presumably quite refined and intelligent considering the university she goes to.
What happened here? How did this work? If you are handsome and tall can you really get away with shit like this? He seemed genuinely unsurprised and casual throughout the whole thing even after the girl left so apparently it was normal for him.
WTF??!?!?!
Edit: To all the people saying “he's handsome and tall, that explains it.” He was not much more handsome or fit than average and about the same height as me which is for whatever reason typical in our age group and school (not many men under 6”0).
And he was SO BOLD AND CASUAL. Like unbelievably. Clearly this line or similar is working for him A LOT.
And he did not know the girl and she looked like the absolute last type of person it would work on.
This situation is a lot more confounding then I think many of you are giving it credit for.
Edit 2: I am a straight male
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fake and straight. but if its real kill him
!incels !wincels
lol sure pal. She may have been attractive but this dude fell for the Halo Effect. no 22 yr old is "refined and sophisticated" no matter WHAT uni she goes to. The hoity toity ones probably is a sign of less sophistication tbh.
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In my young days, in middle/high school, I was prone to overestimating the personality and intellect of women. It was certainly in part due to my desire for them, but I think the main reason was that I was applying the wrong heuristics, I was judging them like I was judging my male colleagues.
Men are either completely r-slurred or smart, so any small glimmer of intelligence was pretty much a proof of being the latter group. With women this doesn't work, they have a higher baseline, but a lower deviation. Also better communication skills. And I was confusing agreeableness with maturity.
I was shocked to learn that the girls I had (what a 13-year-old me at the time perceived as) intelligent, thoughtful conversations with, were failing middle school math. I never experienced this with boys.
But that was in middle school, not at the university lol
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why are you writing like sneedman lmao
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Holy we found a good one
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RIGHT thats what i thought too lol
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I actually totally understand what you're saying but you're better off giving people the benefit of the doubt and assuming the best but at the same time expecting the worst behavior. If you adopt this mindset everything falls into place, and you are both prepared for the worst and also extremely gracious while encouraging people live up to their full potential
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