Robert: I am 61 and still waiting and I am probably too late to start now. I have always been too worried about being laughed at and ridiculed. I finally realised I was unlikely to get anywhere when turned down by a prostitute when in my 30s.
Unhappy Soul: I wish I'd lost my virginity at 37. I'm 54 and still waiting for something I know will never come. About 10 years ago I remember sitting with a group of friends over a drink and the subject came up of losing your virginity and I just fled the room when it came to my turn. One of the others came out to find me and they'd assumed I'd had a bad experience of some kind. It didn't occur to them that I had no experience to recount. All I ever wanted from life was to be a husband and a dad.
Chris: I'm 42, and still a virgin. I get told (often it is turned in to a joke) that I can just go and pay for it. Get it over with. But to me, that lacks any affection, there's no emotional intimacy in it, not even just simple caring. And I would like at least that. I feel like I am different from other people. Excluded. Often made fun of by people who know. To be blunt, sometimes it makes me feel like I must be a monster. I work and do volunteer work as well, go to classes and interest groups, but meeting someone who accepts me, even meeting someone to talk with, just never happens. I just feel extremely alone, and, I guess, forgotten, in this world.
Ikram: I can relate to this story. I am 35 years old and still struggle to talk to girls. I am still a virgin but the difference is lately I have tried to break this barrier and approached a few girls but I always get brutal rejection. I don't know why. And that sends me into another cycle of "No-one wants me," and then I am like, "I am OK... I don't need to have anyone." I blame my ethnicity, my religion and, when all else fails, my weight and my face. It's not easy to be not wanted by anyone.
David: I'm 58 and have never had a girlfriend bar a couple of tentative platonic friendships which never even progressed to hand-holding never mind anything else. In my teens, 20s and 30s it made me thoroughly miserable and incredibly lonely as it didn't seem like an unreasonable thing to want, yet seemed as improbable as winning the lottery. The skills required appear to be something learned in adolescence and if for some reason you don't acquire them, the whole area of relationships becomes an alien world. I sometimes see it as looking into a fish tank.
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All these men have one thing in common. They gave up. They couldn't roll with the punches. They let the idea take root and stopped trying.
If your favorite sports team is down 8-0, should they just pack it in? If youre in last place in a race, do you just walk/drive off the track and go home? An army of 10000 men can be beaten by 1000 if they lose their morale and panic sets in. These feelings are an idea that poisons the mind, and at it's worst the football team just goes home, the racer gives up his dream, and armies who have every advantage get slaughtered in a rout.
These men are sick - not with some mental illness or social anxiety but with a lack of resilience. Never say die
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Its only when you stop trying do you really fail.
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I mean hey some people will die virgins no doubt (just like every other age before ours) but this rhumenation and fear kills any chance these guys had. He knew it was over 35 years ago and spent the rest if his life sad about it? come the frick on
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Also how many of them have gone after fat chicks? Like at least get some then shoot for the 10/10 you want
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