TIFU by not wearing an “age appropriate bikini” to the beach : tifu | Man warns literal child that her bikini makes her look "older" and might get her unwanted attention, reddit calls him a creepy p-do groomer

All of a sudden when we got to the beach, her dad asks me why I wore the black bikini. I told him that it's one of my favorites. He's like “it looks older for your age, why not something more colorful with a pattern”. Just kept saying how I looked older than my age wearing it.

It was kinda awkward, but I guess he was expecting me to wear some tankini with a design or something idk. I kinda feel like I fucked up, but I don't really see the problem with the color either so I'm a little confused lol.

TL;DR: I wore a solid black bikini to the beach, my friends dad told me that I was dressing older than my age and I should've worn something better for my age.

!biofoids !fellas This is a perfectly normal thing to do right? I get he worded it poorly but you'd want your daughter to know "Hey the beach bums are going to give you a lot of attention if you wear that" wouldn't you?

I'm getting creepy vibes from your friend's dad. There's really no good reason for him to comment on a 15-year-old's swimsuit.

He's worried she's going to be propositioned if not outright sexually harassed.

While his intentions MAY have been good/protective, he comes off as a legit creep for making any comments on your outfit/body/what HE deems appropriate for YOU (not his daughter). At the end of the day, what he did was make a teen girl self-conscious for no damn reason and that's enraging to me. The color of your bathing suit does not indicate whether it's appropriate or not. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for dressing how you feel comfortable, OP. I'd maybe avoid family time with your friend in the future and try to hang out one on one until her dad learns boundaries.

As a father with daughters, I would never say something like "you look older wearing that". That's some creepy ass groomer shit.

If one of my daughters brought a friend who tried to wear something actually inappropriate, I would speak to their parents. "Hey Kim's mom, I'm not comfortable taking a 15 year old in a micro bikini to the beach".

OP's bikini sounds like it was fine to me. And that dad is setting off every alarm in my head.

Her mother wasn't there you virtue signalling faggot.

You didn't fuck up. Be careful around him.

She's not going to fuck u m8

Dad to teenagers checking in here.

Your bikini sounds fine. But the friend's dad is making my bones itch. You didn't mess up. But I feel like somebody should check his hard drive. This man molested his kids.

I'm getting weird vibes from her dad with that comment. I've coached young ladies your age for years and would never make a comment like that.

Naw you're a #goodPerson who would just let her get cornered by guys twice her age with no "hey they think you're legal" warning.

You didn't do anything wrong. He knows your age; he knows he shouldn't comment on a 15 year old girl's body, clothing, or appearance. That's creepy of him. You're a child who wore her favorite swim suit to the beach. He's a grown ass man who sexualized you in it, and maybe ruined your favorite bikini for you by doing so. Fucking creep.

Oh come off it. He didn't sexualize her, he warned her other men will.

It was probably not an age-appropriate cut, and he didn't know any better way to say that you look like you're trying to attract sexual attention at too young an age. The purposeful bearing of skin that's not typically bare is fairly widely and historically viewed as a sign of attempting to attract sexual attention. Age 15 is considered by many to be too young to responsibly wade into those waters, hence parental guidance. I don't know how to word it more diplomatically than that.

Reasonable comment, very downvoted

My daughter had 7 friends over for a pool party. Know what I said? Not a darn thing. Just made sure they had what they needed and fucked off to the basement to play xcom.

Because there were at your house, where they aren't random men walking around.

As the father of two (now adult) daughters I can confirm two very important points here: first, you did absolutely nothing wrong; how you chose to dress is your business, not anyone else's, especially the father of a friend, and, second, as sad as it is to say this, you are absolute correct in thinking that you need to watch what you wear around him in the future. He's clearly putting out majorly creepy pedo vibes. It is absolutely inappropriate for any adult man - particularly a friend's father - to comment on what you're wearing. And to comment on how it makes you look older is off-the-charts screaming red alarm ‘stay the fuck away from this guy' alarming. Always trust your instincts.

SHE'S NOT GOING TO FUCK U M8

The fact that he told you that you look older than your age is a gigantic red flag. That's very inappropriate. Use caution if you start to notice him behaving oddly around you.

It's a warning that other men aren't going to avoid her because they won't realize she's a child you retarded pedo

Most of the comments pretty much covered this. Your friend's dad could have been basically expressing his own discomfort over how you looked. I would say it's not your fault. Let it pass, but file away for future reference.

Reasonable

And where does his discomfort come from? His discomfort is creepy as fuck. He looked at a 15 year old, found himself lusting a bit and blamed it on the girl. Couldn't control himself, so he asked her to change.
OP- Do not "let this pass" without putting up a serious barrier between you and this man. !nooticers Notice how redditors see nothing wrong with giving trannies unlimited access to child but a man warning a child she's going to be sexualized is vilified?

All of these people want to fuck a 15 year old on the beach and are dog piling the dad for getting in their way