https://old.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1fm73hh/aitah_did_i_ruin_my_relationship_by_kissing_my/

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Half the time the title on this sub is worse than what actually happened. Thos is not one of those times (375)

People quit so fast. A little challenge and they run. Yeesh. (-59)

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Well clearly she is not "the one" since you felt it necessary to make out with her cousin. You betrayed your girlfriend with her very own family who also betrayed her. You and the cousin suck. I mean if you can't keep your hormones in check, I don't know what to tell you bro. All your relationships are going to get fricked up with that. You are the butthole and I don't know why you would even ask because you have to know. Here's hoping that your ex-girlfriend doesn't bother taking you back for more heartbreak. (150)

Disagree with your first statement. His decision to cheat had nothing to do with her or his former relationship with her. By that I mean that OP cannot make the arguement that he would have had the proper motivation to avoid cheating if his ex gf was better in this way or that. Nope. I don't think you intended it to interpreted that way, I Just loath the idea that the person who didn't cheat is somehow responsible for the cheating in any way. (-38)

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"One thing led to another": yeah, OP wanted to kiss the cousin and that led to him kissing the cousin. 🙄 At least take responsibility. (358)

There is an alternate possibility where she came onto him you know right? (-31)

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Honestly, your situation is already complicated, but what you did with his cousin... it's going to create a real disaster in the family. No one will want to invite her anymore and she will be considered responsible for the scandal. You noticed that her eyes were on you and you never set boundaries. Now put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes. If she had cheated on you with your cousin or another family member, what would your reaction have been? You not only created problems between you and her; you have caused problems throughout the family. His mother will argue with the cousin's mother, leading to conflicts that could have been avoided. All because you acted impulsively instead of thinking.As for the cousin, she also didn't show much respect to herself or her family. But you are seriously lacking in maturity. Believe me, this kind of action always comes back to haunt you. What you have done will come back to you sooner or later, and perhaps even more seriously than you imagine. (1)

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Your opinion is just as valid as anyone else's. Everyone has different boundaries that they get to define for themselves and their relationships. If your partner cheated on you, you for sure get to choose to leave or to stay and figure it out if you decide the relationship is worth working on and saving. Human relationships are complex and each of us bring our own fears and insecurities into them making each one exceptionally unique, and cannot be easily judged. (1)

I actually agree with what you said in this last comment. In the previous ones there was a lot more negative judgement and disrespect towards people who have a hard boundary on physical cheating ("for the people that are triggered please don't get into an actual committed relationship"???) which is what I disagree with. Not sure what made you change the tone/perspective but sure, ultimately it is on the individuals in a relationship to decide how the relationship progresses. If someone wants to take back a cheater, cheers to them and good luck, but if they choose to be disgusted by that person that's valid too, they're not "quitting and screaming" because they don't know how relationships work. They're just hurt and traumatised (betrayal trauma is a very real thing). And they get to be as angry and appalled as they want. (4)

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This is one of those where I don't get why you're even asking. At least some there can be a point of view where you can be unsure on who is in the right or wrong. But you cheated on her, but not just cheated... With her family! WTF dude. There's ruining a relationship with cheating and then there's destroying her because she can't even fully rely on her family for support it seems. "One thing led to another", "don't know why"? No, that's the biggest load of bullshit. I've had meals and watched films with my partners siblings or friends alone whilst waiting for my partner to get home or something and never once have we been close enough to be in a situation where something could happen. (1)