Deep Dive: /r/ADHDparenting
[Link to the subreddit.](https:// https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/)
[Link to the WIKI.](https:// https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/wiki/index/)
General overview:
/r/ADHDparenting is a smaller subreddit, about 10k members, dedicated to medicating their children (appears to be from as young as 1 year old to teens) and discussing the backlash that arises from medicating their young children with stimulants and anti-psychotics for… acting like children?
Medications Determined to be Safe and Effective by /r/ADHDparenting:
Methylphenidate:
o Brand Names: Ritalin, Rubifen, Concerta
o Drug category: CNS Stimulant
o Common side effects: Euphoria,Excitement, Xerostomia (Dry mouth), Insomnia, Tachycardia (Resting heart rate above normal), Heart palpitations (Abnormal heart beating), Anxiety, Hyperhidrosis (Excessive sweating), Anorexia, Weight loss, Headache disorder, Nausea, Upper abdominal pain, Nervousness, Acute abdominal pain, Irritability, Thrombocytopenic disorder (Low blood platelet count), Hypertension (High blood pressure), Angina (Chest discomfort when blood supply is restricted from the heart muscles), Pharyngitis (Inflammation of the throat; dry, scratchy, pain when swallowing), Upper respiratory infections, Urticaria (Chronic Hives), Arthralgia (Joint pain/Arthritic symptoms), Aggressive Behavior, Addiction, Depression
Amphetamines
o Brand Names: Adderall (IR and XR), Dextrostat, Dexedrine, Zenzedi, Vyvanse, Focalin, Desoxyn
o Drug Category: Amphetamine stimulants and derivatives (D-amphetamine, L-Amphetamine, Methamphetamine)
o Common side effects: See side effects for methylphenidate listed above
Atomoxetine
o Brand Name: Strattera
o Drug Category: SNRIs (Selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors)
o Common side effects: See side effects for methylphenidate listed above
XR Guanfacine
o Brand Name: Tenex
o Drug Category: Non-stimulant, Alpha 2A-andrenergic receptor agonist used to treat high blood pressure and ADHD in patients 6 to 17 years of age; mechanism of action causes decreased heart rate and allows blood to pass through the blood vessels more easily
o Common side effects: Xerostomia, Drowsiness, Dizziness, Insomnia, Nausea, Hypotension (Abnormally low blood pressure that can cause dizziness, blurred vision, and tiredness), Sedation, Lethargy, Weight gain, Fatigue, Acute abdominal pain, Acute cognitive impairment, Constipation, Headache disorder, Vomiting, Heart palpitations, General weakness, Irritability, Dehydration, Easily bruised skin
XR Clonidine
o Brand Name: Catapres
o Drug Category: Non-stimulant, Alpha2A-andrenergic receptor agonist used to treat high blood pressure, ADHD, opioid withdrawal, alcohol withdrawal, nicotine withdrawal, and tics
o Common side effects: See side effects for XR Guanfacine listed above
Further reading in the WIKI:
"Where ADHD symptoms are causing significant impairment. After careful professional, expert considerations: First-line medication for children 6 years and over should be stimulants. Same for adults. Stimulant treatment for ADHD does not increase the risk of substance use disorders compared with people who do not access stimulant medication."
My question for this subreddit: Where ADHD symptoms are causing significant impairment for WHOM? As I am reading through this subreddit, it appears that a majority of the parents are not looking to help their children, but are looking to subdue their children as they are incapable of handling the children simply ACTING like children.
This is not to attack those parents who are dealing with their children having violent outbursts at school, or legitimately cannot function without harming themselves or others. This is to call out those parents who simply cannot handle having a child who cries, plays too loud, screams, runs around, throws some toys, has the occasional tantrum, etc. etc. You are unfit to be a parent if you believe that your child acting merely as a child should is too much for YOU to handle. Grow the frick up and stop reproducing if you're going to just medicate these young humans and ruin their brain development while they are learning to function in this world, causing them to be dysfunctional and mentally unstable adults.
NOTE:
WHY is medication a first-line approach to any ADHD symptom? Is raising your child away from an iPad too much to handle? As you go through this subreddit, notice how many of these children are just now turning school-aged. Notice how this coincides with many "hands-off" parents having to take away their kids' iPads, tablets, games, etc. etc. Coincidence? Psht, yeah right.
Examples of posts:
6 year old waking up at night, unable to sleep due to medication.
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/comments/1go6am2/sleep/
6yo is on 2mg guanfacine at night and 2.5mg adderall IR in the morning. The first few days of starting guanfacine and then increasing dose, he slept beautifully. But it doesn't last. He cannot go back to sleep when he wakes up-- just "closes his eyes" for a while (according to him) then when it doesn't work, gets up and plays. Plus he gets scared at night and I think his nervous system is just on high alert. Last night he slept 7pm-2am and just...didn't go back to sleep. The meds seem to be helping a lot with his disposition generally, but I am disappointed guanfacine doesn't seem to be helping with sleep once he acclimates to it.
You give your 6-year-old child stimulants and hypertension medication to help his "general disposition", and you're surprised that he can't sleep at night. Frick off, b-word.
Parent is shocked when 4-year-old acts like a 4-year-old figuring out her world.
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/comments/1gnw4cz/are_45_year_olds_this_noisy_and_fidgety/
My soon to be 5 year old is so noisy! She talks all day, narrates what she's doing and all her thoughts, ask the same questions over and over or says the same word or phrase over and over. If she runs out of tings to say she makes up words or just makes random noises. It makes it really difficult to do things like getting dressed, getting out of the house etc cause there are no natural pauses to say things like "put your shoes on please" and she does not stop talking when asked to.
I have nothing to say.
She seems unaware of her surroundings. Runs into things, trips and falls. Knocks things over. Pulls clothes down from hooks. Picks on things without thinking about it. Touches everything. Goes in to cabinets and drawers and scatter things about. Empties all the toys on the floor without playing with them. Our house gets so messy and it is so difficult to get her to tidy. > She seems to need an extraordinary amount of adult attention and is unable to play by herself for more than a couple of minutes. It is so difficult to get chores done while she is awake.
Notice the mention of "It's so difficult to get MY stuff done while my child is being a child!" Abhorrent.
The comments in this subreddit are an echo chamber for these people. "Yep, sounds like ADHD! Get them to the doctor!"
9-year-old son whines and complains. Parent is annoyed.
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/comments/1gmz6yo/whine_complain/
Why the frick are you even posting here??? THIS IS A 9 YEAR OLD LITTLE BOY. PARENT YOUR FRICKING KID!?
6-year-old in constant pain and is REFUSING to take his medicine.
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/comments/1gmm9pr/refusing_to_take_meds/
My six yo son has been medicated for well over a year and every single day it's a fight to take his medicine. Today he absolutely refused to take it whatsoever and off to school we took him. I'm at a loss. He says he hates the taste of it (it's a pill he swallows) we've tried the chewable ones and he hated those. He also complains it hurts his stomach. I've talked to his dr and they just say be consistent. It's so hard.
YOUR CHILD IS TELLING YOU THE STIMULANT YOU ARE FORCING HIM TO TAKE IS CAUSING HIM STOMACH PAIN, A VERY COMMON STIMULANT SIDE EFFECT??? AND THE DOCTOR SAYS TO "BE CONSISTENT"!?
Opinions encouraged here. Frankly, I'm fricking disgusted by the way these people are ruining the future population.
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Indians do it, can't be too hard
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Indian Americans do it, and there aren't enough of them
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My 3.5 year old is fricking like this, just interrupt them when it's time to put on shoes and coat. My daughter knows the fricking routine.
And how can you think hearing her narrate her day be annoying and concerning, b-word? That's a fricking good thing. She's processing her world. Join in on the fricking conversation. It literally accelerates their mental growth.
Give her a fricking dedicated play area. Both my kids are fricking able to entertain themselves for at least an hour before I have to either come in and intervene or get them something else to do.
Like these parents don't want to be parents. And they act like kids need constant micro control and attention
They don't
Treat them like little adults and they'll develop their own autonomy quicker and actually try to be helpful to you around the fricking house.
You don't need pills. The only fricking things my kids get are fricking multi-vitamin gummies.
But it's fine, treat your kids like drug mules. My kids are fricking going to need your kids to bag their groceries and wash their cars.
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Is the narrating thing actually normal for kids or is this a symptom of them plopping the kid down in front of twitch streamers all day?
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I still talk out loud to myself
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I diagnose u with terminal r-slur 👍
Prescription: meth
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yeah some little kids are just like that, and they also have favorite catch phrases and stuff that they loop back to
always been that way
and some kids are eerily quiet
Often, those are the ones you can't trust
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Absolutely normal, that's how kids develop internal monologue, it's external at first. There was even a kid in Psychonauts doing that very realistically.
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She doesn't watch any streamers. Elmo and stuff narrate what they do so she mirrors that. Which is fine because it gives her chances to enunciate and actually form coherent sentences together.
I also narrate to her but I also narrate my state of emotions. Like if we're sitting and waiting somewhere I tell her how sad it makes me but it's okay I'll occupy it by watching things.
Basically teaching them how to cope without putting a darn iPad in front of them.
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There's like a fricking 1-in-a-thousand chance you get unlucky and your kid is fricking actually an unmanageable psycho.
But everyone else who complains about their kids being tough to handle is fricking just a fricking loser who lets literal children bully them.
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authority figures are absent from these kids lives. All of their feels need to be addressed and dealt with like therapists
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Good breakdown of this sub. I like the recommendations for more medication on top of the original medication due to the OG med's side effects:
https://old.reddit.com/r/ParentingADHD/comments/1eqclph/handling_the_afternoon_crash/
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/comments/1g64abs/adhd_meds_and_after_school_activities/?sort=old
https://old.reddit.com/r/ADHDparenting/comments/1bbz8xw/comment/kufs7b6/?context=8
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wild, it's like junkies who think they can balance uppers during the day and take the edge off at night with some opiates
doing good at school and having hobbies he enjoys, but he's not a perfect kid at home
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Westoids unironically think male childhood is a disorder
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My cousins were chided by their elementary school teachers for wanting to play outside, unlike the girls that preferred indoor
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Be honest, would you want your child to be a Richard Stallman?
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Do I want my child to be a highly respected MIT professor who founds a social movement to free us from the chains of Micro$oft? Who at the same time creates the second best text editor?
My children will release Hurd v1.0
!linuxchads !hurdchads come laugh at this proprietary fool
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The only professorships he has are honorary and not at MIT.
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Huh, didn't know that. What's his real job, toe fungus connoisseur?
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He's Richard Stallman
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its okay we can medicate it
take your hormones
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!jannies why is this marked as an effortpost? They just copy pasted a bunch of shit???
Plus the post is shit, clearly paid by big anti-pharma.
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GOOD point. I've removed fricking effortpost tag and banned @squorgly for eight months, have fricking nice day.
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I feel banned
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I wish i could save those poor children. And by save i mean take all their adhd stimulants and eat them
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I don't understand how these people get through the infant phase but still think that babbling to themselves, being easily distracted, being whiny (if you let them), being irrational, etc indicate a disfunctional child. Where have these parents been for half their kid's life?
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Not at daycare.
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I doubt the validity of most ADHD diagnoses. No the questionnaire at your PCPs doesn't count. If you've actually seen a specialist and had a proper evaluation done, and your child actually has ADHD you should get them on stimmys ASAP. Keeping them on stimmys during development will help develop normally. They're more likely to turn into methed out adults if they aren't medicated as children.
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I would be surprised if most parents even bother with those neuropsychological evaluations anymore. I had one when I was a kid and I remember it was 6 hours long done in 1 or 2 hour increments.
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At work i was the boss for a guy who had been on adderall since he was a child. He was a super competent hard worker with interests and hobbies and was sociable in front of clients. He endorsed the practice of giving ADHD meds to young people. Whule I'm sure some of these redditors are a little quick to turn to meds in general (5yo? Really?) I'm inclined to believe the practice likely benefits the people involved and parents and doctors should make these decisions with the child, not a bunch of childless incels whipping themselves into a frenzy on the internet
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Ur right but tbf I wouldn't trust r*dditors to accurately assess whether their child has adhd but they will go shopping for doctors until they find one that agrees with them and gives them whatever meds they want
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one of my friends was forced adhd meds his whole life or he would be beaten
his parents would make him do the prison tounge check because he would do anything to not swallow the ritalin
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You hardly have to doctor shop for addy. They hand out scripts practically like candy.
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Adhd is vastly underdiagnosed tho
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RFK, save them.
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I've been feeding some of my Vyvanse to my toddler and so far he's seems to be doing alright it makes him more tolerable to be around
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Absolute failures at parenting.
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maybe if they were on stims, they'd have more energy to take care of healthy energetic children
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REAL LIFE PRO TIP IS fricking IN THE fricking COMMENTS
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It's even got his username attached. It's real!
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I was a Concerta kid and hated it, I think I was weird but not ADD weird.
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These people deserve to have CPS called on them.
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FROM A MEDICAL STANDPOINT.. THE BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION IS FAR LESS FACKED UP THAN THE CARDIOLOGICAL/RHEUMATIC EFFECTS..
THESE KIDS ARE AT RISK OF FKCNG HEART FAILURE AND ARTHRITIS
THE KID WITH THE STOMACH ACHE GOT OFF EASY
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NTA have you ever lived with an ADHDtard? Always fricking talking morning, noon and night
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my great grandma had a home remedy for that, which worked 100% of the time
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