Foid keeps being 'nice' to scrotes and is repeatedly when the scrotes once again behave like r-slurred scrotes

I am not encouraging shitty behaviour but it seems like being nice and friendly towards males is constantly getting me in uncomfortable places and I don't understand why it's happening.

I'm currently anxious and feeling really fricking fed up. I work with so many people. Male and female. I treat them all the same. Some I sit and drink tea with in the staff room and natter with. Some I will stop in the corridor and make chit chat like you'd do a auntie in asda. I am never ever flirtatious or suggestive. JUST NICE.

I've recently been messed about by a man I worked with who doesn't work there now. No problem. That was mutual and its done with. But I've made the silly mistake of talking to a man at work over a cuppa about the mistakes I've made with some humour thrown in. Other people were there. We all chatted like adults. He's been with his girlfriend 15 years. I know of her. So all is fine. He's always seemed normal. I asked him for some advice this week about a work issue as I was abit upset with the way something had been handled. Since then he's been messaging me daily. He's apparently thinking of me. He keeps asking if I have ten mins after work to see him. Today he's asked if I'm free at all. It's my day off and no I'm not! He's being creepily weird and I know he's testing the waters and I absolutely hate how shit it feels. He has started writing statuses on fb this week after 3 years of not posting. He's told me he's looked through my pictures and he would marry me if he was single.

I can't cope with this shit. I also gave my number to a local football coach in June. Married! I had to take my son out of coaching after 3 weeks because he was chasing me for s*x.

I'm just starting to really hate men. I dont know how to handle this silly peepee at work now either. What a twat to think it was at all appropriate. I have really ignored messages for hours and hours. If I don't reply the next day he pops up again. I try push it straight Into polite work chat again and he's pushing it. I don't want to feel uncomfortable. Please advise me. Am I to blame.

It seems like she has a habit of getting into deep conversations, and probably telling stories that contain s*x (I guess that's what 'mistakes I've made' refers to) without realising that that's more than enough to attract the interest of the moid. The refusal to take any direct action is also a repeating theme.

>maybe if I just ignore him for long enough he'll read my mind

Just tell him 'stop messaging me'

and if he doesn't report him at work

I understand i would rather not tell work because when I first started I had to report a man 30 years older than me for messaging me. It's the 3rd time this has happened and I hate it because I'm just not looking for male attention. I'm single with kids. I don't want anyone unless it's natural and I have feelings. I no feelings whatsoever for this latest one and I can't believe how he's behaving. I dont know what I've done to make him even think beyond acquaintance/work chatting there's anything.

lol 3rd in a row and still doesn't know how easy it is to accidentally activate the few neurons that a scrote has

Just tell him 'stop messaging me' and if he doesn't report him at work

Well said. Pull on your big girl pants and just say not interested. Cannot understand why this needs to be a big deal.

When you tell a woman to stop being so indirect

Op tries to find reasons to avoid the massively difficult task of saying 'no' to someone

I don't want to involve managers. He's in a 15 year commitment and living with her. So he's crossing a line anyway. But why an earth do people already in relationships behave like this.

I hate the awkwardness. He's been nice and now he's crossed the line and made me feel so awkward. I dont know how to reply

Yep he sent me a peepee pic that night! His wife was then stood next to me at football.

The scrote, fuelled by the erotic situation of not having been blocked yet takes the relationship to the next level of random peepee pic out of fricking nowhere

He messaged me on whatsapp. My kids play with his kids too. So he made normal conversation about the kids etc and arranging another day out at the park do they can play. Then gradually flirted a little. Then photos. Then oversharing. I wanted my son to enjoy football but after 3 weeks I realised it was not appropriate

Or maybe not so out of nowhere. How much do you wanna bet she was quietly enjoying the attention and light flirting until it turned into no-more-plausible-deniability peepee pics

OP I understand what you are saying. Please ignore the 'helpful' people on here who are seeking to blame you for a man's shitty behaviour🙄 I was friendly with a guy a work who had a DS the same age as mine. It turned out both boys participated in the same local sporting activity each weekend. We exchanged numbers as he said it would be nice to meet up with the boys after the activity and go to a cafe for lunch. In the ensuing months he began messaging me about unrelated things, commenting on my appearance and asking what I was up to on a Friday night. I blocked him. What was depressing was the number of female friends who rolled their eyes and told me I was incredibly naive to exchange numbers, of course he was only interested in one thing etc. This was a married man with who seemed perfectly pleasant but apparently I was in the wrong for not realising you cannot possibly just be friendly with a guy.

How many women go through life without realising how r-slurredly single minded men are is kind of