Why don't kids say Goodmorning? Where are manners? : Teachers | "How dare literal children not want to say good morning to me!"

My high school students are like this as well; not all of them, but a lot of them. There's been a few times I have asked them to acknowledge my humanity by at least grunting in reply to my "Good morning". I usually get bored stares in return. I am grateful for the students who do interact like well-raised humans.

Traditional manners don't occur spontaneously, they have to be taught at home first, or at school less ideally.

They are not being taught at home.

Or they are and they just don't respect you /u/Intelligent-Fee4369

Yes, it is good manners to say "good morning" back to your teacher. This is exactly the sort of cultural practice places like /r/teachers have spent decades simultaneously claiming doesn't exist and is white supremacy to enforce.

I still remember getting my parents called into a meeting because when that c*nty french teacher badgered me with "GOOD MORNING" over and over I ask how the heck she knew what kind of god darn day it was.

My father was amused at least

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Maybe it's not a good morning. Maybe they're tired. Maybe they don't want to be there. Maybe they don't like you and don't want to fake pleasantries. Kids are just people. If I get exhausted by social norms as an adult, of course children are going to feel the same way. I truly don't care about traditional "politeness." It varies so much culture to culture. Looking in people's eyes when they talk is considered rude in a lot of places. If the kids are decent people and treat people with kindness, I don't care if they say good morning. Weird hill to die on.

But if you worked in an office or even went to your regular gym/coffee shop and someone said "good morning!" to you, you wouldn't just ignore them would you? It's weird if it's an acquaintance, colleague or friend. I find it really strange when I say hello or goodbye to kids I've been teaching and they ignore me.

I can't remember the last time i said good morning to literally anyone. At best I nod at them.

its a BIPOC school in baltimore lol

if their parents even exist they moste certainly aint teaching they kids manner. they're learning survival

and they can probably smell that he's not from there; they can smell that this is the whitest BIPOC on campus

usually its foids going into these schools to save them kids

When I was a principal, we greeted our students at the door and taught them the polite way to greet someone whether meeting at the door or in passing through the hallway. This was an excellent way to get a "temperature check" on how the kids were doing. I made notes on who to circle back around to later.

Children, especially in Title 1 schools, do not always come with the soft skills that seem to be woven into the fabric of more affluent families' lives. How to shake hands, looking someone in the eyes, greeting someone in passing with a smile and hello… Let's be clear though, these "soft skills" are rooted and centered in a culture of white middle class norms. My students were and are growing up in streets where it's best to mind your business and do not make eye contact.

We had to actively CULTIVATE school as a safe space where we behave differently than you might at home. It takes time, teaching, and intentional practice. I thought it was valuable for them to experience these sort of unspoken norms so that they can move comfortably in different spaces.

Obligatory note that this is all painting with a broad brush, just something to think about.

Christ above what a c*nt.

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