That said, when I see trans women dressed excessively girly, inappropriately or almost in a costume (school girl outfits, Princess dresses, etc. etc.) I have trouble relating. It feels like this is enforcing negative trans stereotypes, and harming us as a group.
Logically, I know what other people do is unlikely to affect me, and my reaction is probably due to some remaining transphobia. Just a bunch of girls and women living their best lives and doing the things they always wanted to do but couldn't. I just have trouble squaring this away with my own feelings.
No hate on those enjoying themselves, I really am tempted to chalk this up firmly as a 'me' problem.
The TL:DR is that yes, it's a me problem. Trans women are beautiful and unique, it's our business what we wear, and haters are gonna hate anyway so I need to get over myself. And I promise I'm working on it.
OP trying so hard not to offend the hugbox, wonder what the commenters have to say:
so brave!
none whatsoever I'm sure, might as well drop the cis/trans labels
hormones make you young again!
learning to accept that you can't get your childhood back and moving on? nah, wear the outfit xueen
need safe spaces without c*s chuds telling us we're being "creepy" or "inappropriate"
op is noticing things
it's just trauma, chud!
mids 30s, dressing 13-14, perfectly valid and normal!
not wanting creepers to represent you is bigotry
cis women need to pass too
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We're very aware that the female-dating-strategy subreddit is operated for the purpose of misinformation, cult-like indoctrination, promoting dysfunction and hatred and negative emotions.
There's an extremely excellent reason (backed up by hours of discussion, ten-thousand-word essays no one outside our mod team will ever read, and theory literature digging and reaching out to experts) why AHS does not put the words "incel" and "women" into the same noun phrase the way that you did in your comment here:
It's because one of the major methods of bad faith apologetics for hate movements is the Tu Quoque: "They're just as bad".
But -- importantly -- the female-dating-strategy is not:
Importantly, there are no mass murders committed by FDS adherents. There are no restraining orders that we're aware of that cite the FDS subreddit. There are no men on Twitter stepping forward to say that members of the FDS movement are bombarding them with unwelcome tweets and direct messages, sexual advances, and photoshopping pornography of them.
In fact we cannot find any credible evidence that there are any groups of powerful women who take over institutions of power to leverage oppression of men as a whole class.
So calling them anything like "incels" is comparing sour apples to radium poisoning.
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