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What were the biggest disappointments in transitioning to being treated as your true gender? - r/asktransgender

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As a trans woman, it is incredibly sad to experience how much less freedom I have to move safely while out and about. I feel I have to be constantly vigilant to potential danger from people who are verbally aggressive about demanding my attention, and I can't go for long jaunts alone at night anymore.

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Constant condescension from my coworkers. Especially when it comes to lifting or moving heavy things. It’s like I’m literally not allowed to strain myself physically even though I’m clearly stronger than most of them because it emasculates them or something. There’s even a slightly butch cis lesbian on my team that’s constantly coddling me when it comes to physical labor. Like I know I’m “smol” and all that but can’t you guys see my thicc butt legs? I could literally yeet one of them through a brick wall with a single roundhouse kick if I wanted too. Frick off and let me do my job lol.

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I love my femme compliments as much as the next girl, but being called things "good girl" by old dudes everytime i help them at work gives me the icks and makes it hard to accept any other compliments from other people

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Dealing with men in general has become an absolute nightmare. Today I had to deal with a creep just fricking checking out at a grocery store and it happens frequently anywhere I go. I constantly have creeps in my dms. I get treated like an object by men or like a freak. Ive been assaulted and harassed. I thought it was going to be shitty dealing with men but its so much worse than that and lately i want nothing to do with them.

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Children and animals love me, My wife says its a kindness visible in my eyes that makes them feel happy to see someone who understands them. But now I've had had two instances where I've seen parents tug their child closer to huddle below them. And I can't tell if they're just being "nice" and trying to make sure their child doesn't touch the well dressed business lady. OR if they're pulling their child away because they think I'm trans and feel like I'm a predator. It hurts me to the core anyone would think I could be like that.

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When my boss stopped listening to me because he saw me as a girl now...

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I miss long solitary walks at night. I looked fairly intimidating as a guy, definitely miss that privilege now. Totally worth it obviously, but still

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I should start by saying I'm pretty priviledged. I sorta pass so I don't think I experience too much direct transphobia, although I'm always concerned someone will clock me.

The most annoying thing is how people will often times talk over me. I haven't had a chance to voice training yet so I have this mix between a very whiny white woman and raspy vocal fry. I can't really speak loudly with this voice so it's super easy for others to just overpower me in a conversation and steer it where they want. It's super frustrating because it isn't just men like I thought it would be. Women do it too. Family members are probably the worst about it because I don't wanna be a b-word and complain.

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bonus ftmanlet cope:

being called short king [165cm/5′ 4.96″]


Having to worry about cops being called just for going for a walk.

:marseythinkorino: same poster:

Mentor or Father figure - /r/transadoption

If anyone needs a supportive adult I am a 41 y/o FTM. I know what it is like to have no support and everyone of you deserve support. Even if you are older than me if you need support feel free to message. I may not get back to you right away I am on vacation and get horrible signal but I will message back. 💙

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hahahahahahahaha

all the trains that have a massive problem with the massive amount of people checking them out

 

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No one takes me seriously now, us women have it so hard

:#marseyno:

they pull their children away because they think I'm a predator

:#marseyyes:

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No one takes me seriously now, us women have it so hard

They imply while ignoring the fact that literally no one off-line sees them as an actual women.

Also, insert Steve Buscemi "hello fellow women".

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they all want to frick me!

No, they're confused. If a dog was wearing a bumblebee outfit it'd pique my curiosity too.

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A dog wearing a bumblebee outfit is actually cute and valid.

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Say trans lives matter

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This does make me awkward for lightly staring from what i percieve as the corner of my eye at a mtf once. In my case at least, i was trying to normalize different gender identities and the like for me; as I was raised somewhat judgementally towards lgbtq+ communities. So for me, i was trying to be discrete but using the moment to mentally condition myself to accept being different as totally okay and normal.

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For context this was in London, not bumblefart nowhere, so people are used to walking.

> so people are used to walking.

> so people are used to walking.

> so people are used to walking.

> so people are used to walking.

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As a train, i hate attention!

let me post my pic all over reddit for attention


Krayon sexually assaulted his sister. https://i.rdrama.net/images/17118241526738973.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17118241426254768.webp

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cute and valid female behavior tbh

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Lmao more than likely its people like my parents friend who saw his first RL :marseytrain: in New Orleans. Apparently he couldnt stop staring cause it was so bizzare

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I could literally yeet one of them through a brick wall with a single roundhouse kick if I wanted too

Do they not teach these people to act like women?

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Maybe their concept of woman is based on the skinny hot girl in an action movie that says "I have six brothers" when the main character man asked how she learned how to kick butt

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That or it's based off some cringe incel anime depection of a woman. Trains seem to base their image off neet weeb shit, or stereotypical Hollywood "hotness".

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"Ryuko helped me realize I was trans!"

Or even better:

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If you've never seen Legally Blonde, it's about El Woods, an over the top stereotype of a woman that is basically just Barbie incarnated into non-plastic flesh defying expectations and going Harvard Law School. She wins everything by knowing all sorts of totally girly secrets that stinky men don't know. It's decently funny I guess. Imagine it empowering your trans identity though.

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That's like your trans identity being empowered by this show:

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I'm sure it's happened but I'm too lazy to find it.

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They get their idea of what women are like from /r/twoxchromosomes and other 🚂🚃🚃🚃s :marseydisagree:

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/r/twoxchromosomes and other 🚂🚞🚞🚞s

why repeat yourself

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you'd think it would be natural as they're foids trapped in moid bodies

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Or interact with other people at all tbh.

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If you see clips of :marseytrain: you realize they act like gay men. They arent women so they dont know whats natural for women, instead choosing to behave as what they believe women act as (which is generally wrong)

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Constant condescension from my coworkers. Especially when it comes to lifting or moving heavy things. It’s like I’m literally not allowed to strain myself physically even though I’m clearly stronger than most of them

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This is the "smol girl"

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Better passing than most reddit trains tbh

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Probably, but he just looks like a cute, blurry twink.

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Yeah, this one tops the competition.

Not saying that the competition is strong.

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The hands never lie

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its just one good pic, look at his profile

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cute tbh

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What a waste :marseycry:

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that one is actually impressive lmao, dude went from chad to crackhead foid

e: literally cant compliment a king/queen without neckbeards coming out of the woodwork pooping on it even on here, smdh

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With a 5 o'clock shade 👌

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meh I have seen non-trans cis womxn with more moustache than that

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Dude's like 5'5"

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Dude looked like Jordan Peterson, let's not suck his balls too hard eh?

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Skin got more mayo tho :marseypuke:

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this is by far the most impressive one, lots of hard work done to get there

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Maybe they’re 5’2”

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5′ 4.96″

She put a point after her inches.

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When it comes to height there's nothing worse you can do. Either round up or round down. It's unironically over.

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nah I did that because copy paste, her comment only had cm

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Ah that's better. What's the original.

EDIT: 165cm. Still a manlet but not doomcoping like I thought before.

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5’ 4.96”

I would transition too

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I pass too well. I look like too much like a woman. Everyone sees me exactly as I see myself and they want me so badly.

The feds could take notes on how to brainwash a population.

:#marseynotesglow:

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You're assuming this isn't their handiwork.

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@Aevann all i.reddit links were turned from .png to .webp which broke em :marseycry:

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working as intended

:#chadcopecapy:

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website detected me linking those images in bad faith and disabled embedding

:#chadsneedcapy:

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fixed king

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MtF needs to stop it goes against God and country, I will only ever support FtM.

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Female to male are worse as they are agents sent to annoy gay men

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people who are verbally aggressive about demanding my attention

ain't nobody want your attention


Krayon sexually assaulted his sister. https://i.rdrama.net/images/17118241526738973.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17118241426254768.webp

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Unironically just shave the pube-stache and he would become prime bussy-meat.

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:marseytrain: with stories that totally happened :marseycope:

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I could literally yeet one of them through a brick wall with a single roundhouse kick if I wanted too. Frick off and let me do my job lol.

Least delusional train

Children and animals love me

makes them feel happy to see someone who understands them

What did they mean by this

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Brutal, I love it. The pics make this :marseychefkiss:

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When someone transitions at work I stop listening to their opinion, not because I don't listen to women but because I don't trust the judgement of anyone who wants to cut off their own balls.

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>https://i.rdrama.net/images/16841295192149947.webp

why do they all work dead end no body jobs

trans lives matter

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a train without a keyboard is like an angel without wings.


Follower of Christ :marseyandjesus: Tech lover, IT Admin, heckin pupper lover and occasionally troll. I hold back feelings or opinions, right or wrong because I dislike conflict.

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Females truly have something mentally wrong with them. Their minds are flawed, and at this point in my life I was beginning to see it. The more I explored my college town of Isla Vista, the more ridiculousness I witnessed. All of the hot, beautiful girls walked around with obnoxious, tough jock-type men who partied all the time and acted crazy. They should be going for intelligent gentlemen such as myself. Women are sexually attracted to the wrong type of man. This is a major flaw in the very foundation of humanity. It is completely and utterly wrong, in every sense of the word. As these truths fully dawned on me, I became deeply disturbed by them. Deeply disturbed, offended, and traumatized.

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Pure delusional projection to validate themselves as "women".

"I too now experience catcalling and harassment (from scenarios I make up in my head). I'm such a women now!"

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