It is about time we gathered to decide what requirements and restrictions we should put on !incels membership (given the new influx of aspiring members)
Here are my thoughts:
Men only.
Virgin only, KHHV is too strict imo (I am KV btw, so full transparency).
No ping group farmers
Those in the !truecels ping group should be rejected
No gays allowed
No anti-incels
thoughts?
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They'll see my 10 year employment gap tbh. Idk it's just hard because there are so many things I have to fix at this point just to pass as a normal human being, and each one of them is an uphill battle.
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Your 10 year employment gap will turn to 20 if you dont start somewhere, ffs, try anything. Get your mind right and stack up some little wins that will turn to big wins.
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I am trying. But every time I go for a win I am hit with 100 losses at once. Society is built for people who are NOT me. It is built for people who are social, agreeable, content to do the same thing over and over again. People who don't mind talking on the phone even though text based communication is superior. People who don't mind dealing with bureaucracy. It takes me like 2 hours to schedule a doctors appointment because the though of calling them is difficult and for some reason their online scheduling doesn't work. How am I supposed to make it in a world that actively works against me to keep me down?
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You need to get plugged into a group of normal men, preferably Gen X. Find a men's therapy group. Find men outside of the internet and surround yourself with people who are trying to grow, that will push you. There's nothing wrong with you beyond being a kitty, and getting around men who arent kitties will rub off on you to the point someone will find you attractive enough to let you poke her kitty.
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These groups do not exist, and most gen x men I see have ugly wives.
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They do, I am part of some.
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thanks for the advice, but I just don't see how spending time around men is going to solve my needs of finding women. All of my hobbies are mostly male ones, all I do outside of the gym is train wrestling and bjj. I just don't see the need for male friends because I don't have those type of social needs. There just isn't anything in it for me.
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You have need of it because of this...
You are not a man, yet. You can't handle your own shit, much less handle the shit for women. Women will not find you attractive if they think they are more capable than you. Go learn how to be a man from other men, and women will come with time.
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That is not going to work for me. I just don't have that much in common with most men. If Zyzz was still alive I wouldn't mind hanging around him, but what are other men going to teach me about being a man? For gen x they are not going to be able to tell me how to online date, and in person dating is 100 percent dead and most statistics prove it. Are they going to suddenly put a love of people inside me? As for the doctors appointment thing, it's not that I don't know how. It's just another example of the failure of bureaucracy. I hate dealing with that shit so much, why the frick do I have to get on the phone when an online form could take care of it in 5 seconds? Why is there so much arbitrary bullshit like that in every facet of society? I just can't take it.
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Holy shit you sound exactly like a kennel assistant, report straight to your nearest animal shelter
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I have a degree, that job is beneath me.
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Neighbor it sounds like exactly 0 jobs are beneath you
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Really? Why am I not doing it then if it isn't beneath me? Maybe if I had to support myself it wouldn't be beneath me, but I have rich parents.
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You're not doing it because you're too pathetic to work up the courage to leave the house. Start somewhere
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I also don't want to just work to make someone else rich. I wouldn't mind working, but I want to keep my dignity.
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It's not a skilled job, you're wrangling cats and dogs. Just pretend you're a boomer, walk in and act confident.
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Why are you trolling me?
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I'm not trolling you neighbor
I know it's a boomer meme but it does actually work at small places where you can speak directly with whoever's in charge of hiring.
If you're too neurodivergent to do that, start volunteering at one and then ask about jobs after a couple weeks.
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When is the last time you got a job? I would volunteer there for years and say "So do you have any paying jobs? I have been volunteering here for a while now" and they would give me the "look". The look I have become familiar with over the years, the look that let's me know I have been "found out" as a nonneurotypical. They would respond "Uhhhh sure. I'll look into it another time and then get back to you." which is another thing neuros do. They never speak to you directly even though your communication style almost requires it, but they will look at you odd for not understanding even though they are the ones who aren't being direct.
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Dude it is 2024 at this point. If I tried to do that I would get hit with the "apply on line" and I live in a suburban area with wealthy people. It isn't that easy here.
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This happened in 2019
and I live in the exact same sort of area
You're stopping yourself from trying. Just go volunteer somewhere, they won't turn you down for that. And you can put it on your resume
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I have tried the normal path over and over with nothing but failure to show for it. Even 2019 and now are a big difference. For example the hiring process is going to be 100 percent online at this point, covid ensured that. If I apply online I am instantly filtered. If I go in person I'm the r-slur who couldn't figure out to apply online. And even if, even if I make it over this massive hurdle, that doesn't guarantee I end up where I want. I could just end up a cog in the machine with nothing to show for it because even if I become employed is all that worth it just to get a chance at a life that still ultimately sucks?
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No, you actually fit the kennel assistant mould to a tee
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Quit being a doomer
cute twink 
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I haven't given up, but I am realistic about what I am up against.
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I acknowledge that you have a lot working
against you but you just gotta 
accept 
the fact that it's unfair and push forward
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It really is all I can do.
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Remember: nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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Good luck because you only get one life
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