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Advice required from Men: how does one go about building a connection with you that can lead to love

https://old.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1b8svg7/advice_required_from_men_how_does_one_go_about/

I am perfect on paper

https://old.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/16e1ht8/how_many_of_us_here_are_long_term_singles_3_years/

Half a year ago she realised why she is single and been working on it, so as you see very successful

Also this comment:

Me. 8 years. Because I can't find someone I connect with mentally, emotionally and spirituality :)

She is 32 so at her prime she couldn't find a Chad and she still going strong :marseystrong:

Also b-word been trying at her mid 30 friend zone guys

https://old.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/vzm826/meeting_new_male_friends_group_friends/

So the sub is legit femcel sub

Also she asked men help and comments she gets:

Woman here.

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Lmao she trauma dumps or has some other glaring personality flaw, maybe she's just a total b-word. Who knows.

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She is probably just unbelievably aloof. A lot of these foids confuse playing hard to get with borderline frigid b-word.

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Trauma dumping is seemingly so normalized that I can barely factor it into my judgements anymore. I just accept that it's probably going to happen.

Maybe I need to do some introspection on why this happens to me so frequently.


Current hyperfixation: https://i.rdrama.net/images/17146091388618665.webp

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With apps drowning a lot of foids in a sea of options they seem to kind of try to speedrun through potential hitches to keep from getting invested with a dude and then finding out afterwards that he has an issue with her trauma. It's the feminine equivalent of scrotes never opening up to a foid again after they get rejected by a partner for revealing trauma.

It especially gets bad as they get older because they both have way more trauma and they feel like they have less time to waste.

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idk I think it's a simpler case of women have a tendency to dump whatever negative thing happening in their life on you regardless of whether that's some past trauma or complaining for hours about someone at work etc

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This didn't used to be a thing though.

Could be the modern terminally online obsession with victim culture and therapy speak spilling over into personal lives though.

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I think it's just inherent, part of the 'support me while I raise the baby' instinct where support to them in part means listening to them complain :marseyshrug:

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I genuinely cant tsll if trauma dumping means they hate you or they trust you

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neither, they just identify you as someone they can use to dump shit onto

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:marseydepresse#d:

Thank god I got side hoes

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trauma is an overused and fake word by "ppl" (f*ids) who have never actually experienced it. Actual traumacels keep it to themselves and cope thru substance abuse and/or dangerous or silly behavior

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