Wife warns whale: witness weighty whinging

Long story short, my husband is obese. He always was to be fair, but now he's obese-obese. He looks horrible and I feel zero attraction to him.

I've told him multiple times how I feel and he always says he'll put more effort into losing weight but as of right now he is the biggest he's ever been. I almost want to cry when I look at him. He's almost grotesque now. I cringe when he touches me. Kissing is hard because he can't help but breathe heavily and smother me. S*x is a nightmare.

I told him this morning that if he doesn't lose at least 50 lbs by the end of the year I'm filing for divorce. I don't think I'm great or anything but I at least deserve to be with a man I'm attracted to. He also deserves a woman who's attracted to him. Honestly, even if I never find anyone else and die alone, I think I'll be happier than I am now. It's torturous to be with someone you feel disgust looking at.

He was very hurt and called me shallow and selfish. I may be, but I don't think it's crazy to not be happy with someone who's knocking on death's door. At 6 ft 330 lbs he is in the danger zone. I met him at 280 lbs. I'm so fricking unhappy.

Was I wrong?

Your post history is public. Everyone can see that you're already pining for someone else. Do your husband a favor and be honest.

Also it takes a real trashy person to get on here talking about your husband like that when you're obsessed with another dude. May karma be ever creative when she visits you.

The dildo of consequences rarely arrives lubed so I have been led to believe.

I am stealing this.

You're wrong for picking out your husbands “flaws” on the internet while you're posting under the same account how you're in love/limerence with somebody else. You're looking for excuses and/or reasons to blame your husband for what you're doing! YTA!

I'm literally going back and checking out previous posts right now 😂😂

She's nuts, “he was holding hands with a woman that looks like me” is she the villain in a lifetime movie in 1995?

LMAO first thing I thought after reading this was “she needs therapy. And lots of it before she gets arrested for stalking”….. suffice it to say she should totally divorce or leave her partner because he would be better off.

Lifetime movie? You're giving OP too much credit, that is telenovela level bullshit.

True true! Her thinking her Adonis married a woman that looked like her on purpose is very telenovela, my Abuela would've eaten that shit up.

I hope he loses weight and that helps him finds someone that's not such a sad horrible person.

After some googling for reference, 330lb at 6ft isn't even that bad! Sure not super healthy but not the grotesque monster OP created in her post! The way she's described him is cruel and dramatically ott.

What? It's fricking huge

I was picturing mobility scooter, needs help to wash kinda huge, he's nowhere near that big.

mate anywhere outside the US that is extremely fat

I'm in the UK and have met and worked alongside plenty of people who are 20st +, it's really not that uncommon. I'm not advocating by any means as he is clearly unhealthy but 23st at 6ft is not horrendously obese.

He's a big boy for sure but at same time I have seen rugby forwards who are larger relative to size.

No it's not uncommon but most still consider it extremely fat. I wouldn't necessarily say ‘horrendously obese', but it's very unhealthy

People act like YTA talking about him like this isn't an anonymous platform. That's how she feels people. She's being honest and yall are getting in your feelings. NTA for wanting to be attracted to your spouse. You might wanna find out why he's gaining. He may need a therapist or docto

Check the other posts she has. Its just a scumbag trying to find an excuse to leave her husband

Ok... She's married and in love with someone else... Yikes... The husband's definitely a problem though. But her motivation is questionable.

Have you actually seen her other post? She's absolutely an butthole. She's looking for validation from strangers so she can cheat or leave her husband with a clear conscience. She's obsessed with her toxic ex.

Yes somebody else mentioned that as well. She definitely has questionable motivation. I'm new to reddit so I didnt think she was malicious. But I can definitely see where she's coming from now. Pretty sad