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Bumble introduces Opening Moves: "a way to let women maintain control while not feeling the stress of initiating all of the conversations."

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/30/style/bumble-dating-apps.html

Copy pasting the first part of this so lazy girlies don't have to experience the stress of !clinklickers


As the sheen on dating apps dulls, more Americans are reporting bad experiences on them. Frustrated by bots, subscription costs and high effort-to-reward ratios, Gen Z is fleeing the apps in hope of real-life meet-cutes. Earlier this year, “Bustle” declared that dating apps are in their “flop era.”

Not all of the apps are taking this backlash without a fight. On Tuesday, after months of internal shake-ups and stock market woes, Bumble took a shot at winning back hearts and minds with a redesign, which includes a break with the app's requirement that women make the first move.

A new feature, which the company has called “Opening Moves,” allows women to place on their profiles a question, like “What is your dream vacation?,” to which men who match can respond. (In nonbinary and same-gender matches, both sides can include these prompts.)

The shift is a major one for Bumble. Until now, a man who matched with a woman on the app had to wait for her to message him. If she did not initiate a conversation, the match would expire after 24 hours.

Whitney Wolfe Herd founded Bumble in 2014 because of her own personal experiences. She said that the idea was to give women more control. “I had a series of bad relationships, and I felt I was controlled by a man,” she added, “whether it was: Don't wear this or, You can't hang out with this person or, You need to be home at this time.”

But over the years, Bumble received feedback from women who found that making the first move was “a lot of work” or “a burden,” and Ms. Wolfe Herd began thinking about how to release the pressure. Opening Moves, she said, is a result of that process, a way to let women maintain control while not feeling the stress of initiating all of the conversations.


But not copying the whole thing because The Gray Lady be a notoriously litigious b-word. :objection:

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>women found that making the first move was “a lot of work” or “a burden,”

No shit :marseywomanmoment2:

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lol women type "hi" as an opener and even that's too much for them.

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No they type “hiiiiii”.

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"hi." = I hate you, please die.

"hi" = I hate you, but you can continue living as long as you do it somewhere else.

"hii" = I am reluctantly willing to speak with you, if I have to.

"hiii" = You seem okay, I am cautiously optimistic about this conversation.

"hiiiii" = Please respond because you're cute.

"hiiiiii" = I want to have your babies.

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This is why homo dating is better.

"Wanna suk diq @ Wendy?" = "Want to suck peepee behind the Wendy's dumpster?"

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!r-slurs the 4chan :marseydrum: adage "too neurodivergent :marseyneko: to read the signs" finally came true for me 😭😴😴😴

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>2022

I assume you have 2 babies already

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She got married :marseybride: in February of 2022 but doesn't have any children :marseychildclutch: as of yet. Is she waiting :marseysad: for me😮😮😮? Any opinion @JimieWhales

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I think you blew your shot.

The iiiii's have had it.

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:marseychudnotes:

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Know your worth kings. Don't reply unless they actually put in an effort post style message.

Then delete the apps and go get fricking laid at the bar like a normal human being.

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The sum of i in sequence hi must be > or equal to 3 to respond to a foid, noted

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:marseyyayyyytext:

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Hiiiii

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communism will win

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https://media.giphy.com/media/l2JhIUyUs8KDCCf3W/giphy.webp

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omg hi @KONY_2022!!! okay so this is like super awkward omg but basically i had to remove ur comment bc u didnt say communism will win lol. don't worry though, we like wont let you post anything that like doesnt have communism will win in it. anyways im like just a robot 😲 but if u want to talk 2 somebody you should do it here lol

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:marseysad: I use "Hi." for most people, do they think I hate them?

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Yayyyy

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:marseyyayyyytext#:

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This is why I'm homo.

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TFW no uncle molests you as a young kid to spare you from the gussy menace :marseyitsover:

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My uncles are under 6 foot. I've got standards.

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This is really all they have to do. It's one extra step from matching with a guy on tinder. Then the ball is back in his court and the onus is him to not get ghosted. Absolute :marseymisssize:

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Had a foid just type "." once, minimum effort.

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I've had women write shit like "you have a pretty face", "I like your body" or "you look edible" along with the great conversation starter, just sending an emoji: 😍

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All of those openers suck, but I can see why a girl might think it was what moids want since they send that shit so often.

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Yeah, I kinda realize what type of shit women deal with from those.

Like, "you look edible", what the frick non-offensive thing am I supposed to say to that?

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Yeah, who the frick knows. She's already opening at like an 8 so you could try to match that energy, but it's tricky because you can so easily overshoot and weird her out...

Maybe-good:

"fancy a taste tomorrow night?"

"you know it girl, I'm sweet like chocolate."

Bad:

"I'd like to eat you, too. ;)"

"I want to be in your mouth"

I am actually sympathetic to guys on this. Women often expect men to read their mind and do/say exactly what she wants without being told.

It's nice to feel like he really understands me intuitively, but kind of unrealistic in most cases.

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:marseycoffee:

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It's literally counter to a woman's psychology, everyone who has touched grass knows that women seldom make an obvious first move. They can basically only signal they like a guy through social cues (eye contact, smiling).

Anyways dating apps peaked on 2018 and you're an r-slur if you haven't pivoted to meeting women in real life (not at bars either), your parents and grandparents literally met the same way with way less money and resources

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if you haven't pivoted to meeting women in real life (not at bars either)

How does one do this? I'm not baiting I'm just neurodivergent. Like I see tons of cute girls at the gym but idk how to break the ice. Idk if I should also talk to guys at gyms so I come across as generally friendly instead of a creepy flirt :marseymoidmoment:

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:#marseygoodnight:

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Imagine thinking "hey" or "hi" is a hard burden to overcome. Jfc so trash.

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Also they could just switch to literally any other dating app lmao

Like why use bumble if you dont like the fundamental concept of it?

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Bumble is going out of business because the fundamental concept is so bad; their stock is down 89% since their IPO. Bumble is attempting to pivot to try and salvage anything. I expect their stock will be delisted sooner rather than later.

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