we need to stop blaming womxn for marrying/having babies with bad scrotes

I'm incredibly fortunate in my own marriage, but that's what makes it all the more obvious to me that we have to stop blaming women for the behavior of the men in their lives, because there LITERALLY aren't enough good men to go around. If all women everywhere waited to have a relationship or baby with a genuinely great guy, like 75% of women would NEVER get married or have a child.

so just settle with whoever and get that bag queen!

I just see so many posts on here about men being trash partners/parents and so many of the comments, largely from women, are like "why would you have kids with him?" Or "why would you even marry a guy like that?" And I want to scream from the rooftops that it's because these women just want to find love and start a family but easily 75% of men are incredibly problematic partners so what else are the women supposed to do? Not ever have a partner? Not ever have any children? Just clump together Golden-Girls-style until they die? Especially when you consider that a lot of these men know how to fake being decent for at least the first few months of a relationship, it's absolutely no wonder why women fall victim to scumbags.

fr, he's gonna fake it so why shouldnt she?!

We need to do a whole lot better at not victim-blaming or shaming women for partnering with a bad guy. For many, many women, they just literally don't have any other choice, if they want some semblance of having a family.

womxn have no choice butt to choose as they babydaddy because of the focal fact regarding the cisheteronormative neocolonialist patriarchy is