https://old.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/174vep5/am_i_transphobic?sort=controversial
The other day at work, I was helping this young transgender man customer and I didn't know he was transgender until he corrected me very rudely after I said “It would be in the next aisle Miss” saying “ugh why does everyone misgender me? My pronouns are he/him, can't you tell?” And whispered to his friend “cis people annoy me” and I'm not even cis? (I'm a demigirl)
TLDR: A transgender man got upset I assumed he was a woman and I accidentally used the wrong pronouns but I apologized and afterwards addressed him with the proper pronouns . Am I transphobic?
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We're won't punish you, as long as you educate yourself, sweaty.
Mhm! I am trans, and would rather someone not call me sir/ma'am, and just say, "It's in the next isle."
You should be rude to people and avoid polite titles because you might offend the permanently offended.
you're not transphobic. maybe stop using the gendered terms though so it doesn't happen again
While you may not be transphobic, you're a horrible rude prick anyway!
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Bait or insanity.
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Um if if you don't correctly gender the 5'0” gremlin in a baggy t-shirt and a micky mouse voice as a man you are DIRECTLY CONTRIBUTING TO TRANS GENOCIDE.
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Yea
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How about five .38's to the chest
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Possibly both.
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If you think this is not a direct extrapolation from gender theory as people of gender use it, you are impressively stupid.
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well i use this site so
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B8 immediately obvious
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The frick is a demigirl?
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Nobody knows, very few care
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More narcissistic enby.
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You can't advocate for shit like this and use the term "hugbox"
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That's not what they said.
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Hugboxing is relative, you should stop trying to understand normies because you just do such a piss poor job of it.
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“We ducks have the right
to screech at you when you call us chickens even tho we look like chickens”
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Of all the inexplicable, self hating tendencies these NPC have, this kind of self flagellation is both the most confusing and pathetic of them. I can't even understand it. I could count on one hand the number of times I've apologized at work in the last ten years, working management the entire time. “Sorry” isn't even in my lexicon. This is part of being an adult, unironically.
I can't even fathom going through life being constantly sorry for committing the original sins of being White (normal), not
(normal), straight (normal) and male (we are actually a minority)
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“Normalcy” is actually unironically an ideological choice, and it's the wrong one.
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How can you pass as a nobinary man, how can you be a nonbinary man,
@YouveBeenEatenByAGrue please explain this as I'm deeply confused and need your emotional labour. I will compensate as a good ally should.
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I assume it's an umbrella term for demiboy, masculine-presenting non-binary, and shit I don't totally get like he/him lesbians.
Feel free to not comp me for that lazy answer, but if you feel like it anyway could you load me up with homoween awards
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the answer is either autism or narcissism. sometime both
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Narcissism is an element but only because narcissism is an element of the sovl and thus present in everything we do unless you're a monk or comatose ^^
I'd say that in the valid's efforts to build more and more elaborate selves that challenge societal molds, they are at least aware of narcissism and it's role in the self enough to be more easily enlightened than normies.
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neighbor none of these gender goblins have any self awareness, that's why the fell for the cult brainwashing. It literally takes an epiphany for most of them to snap out of it
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Where I'm from small children that forget to say Sir or Ma'am spontaneously combust.
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Go aussie and call everyone a dumb c*nt regardless of presentation
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That's right, we should avoid gendered language even though that'll set off the dusty fricks that are constantly seething about the superior generations.
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We have a gender neutral term, neighbor, but blacks are preventing white people from using it. Transphobia would be solved if we could all use neighbor because you know that whites would start using it at every opportunity.
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Sounds to me like he was worn out with multiple incidental misgenderings and lashed out, doesn't make you transphobic for making a mistake as long as you correct yourself once you know better.:
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Your not transphobic, but I'm going to go against the hugboxing and say, gendered language is pretty dumb, and easy to avoid. What's wrong with "it's in the next isle" ? Unless you are talking to an old AF person who will get mad if you don't bow and kiss their feet, you will never get in trouble using gender neutral language.:
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you're not transphobic. maybe stop using the gendered terms though so it doesn't happen again:
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No but he's allowed to be upset about being misgendered and vent to his friend. We non-passing people are allowed to vent and correct people on misgendering us. Passing shouldn't be a prerequisite for not being misgendered. Next time, use less gendered langauge and don't eavesdrop on private convos:
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