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OP's Lament

Ranting. Ranting. Ranting.

I have decided to rant out my predicaments on this forum today.

What is the way out of poverty for me?

One inlaw is even living with us, making it 8 in number, all in one room.

This thing don come big pass me.

I know most of you here would blame me for impregnating a woman to give birth to that number of children but then, life is life. It happens like that sometimes.

They say a poor man's prayer is "e go better" but instead of things to get better in Nigeria, everyday things get worse.

Truth is, except I drive myself out of this mess to a better life for me and my children, this poverty that is so stricken will likely be extended to my children, which I really don't want.

No two ways about it except ...

But like a car without tyres, can it move even if it has fuel? Definitely no.

For 4 days now, I sleep outside in an abandoned car because of financial war at home. I can't go back home and I even feel like never to go back there but should I abandon them like that and run away? To where?

When I went to the market the other day with 5k to buy food items for the house, I was crying and talking to myself on my way back because I came back with almost nothing.

Nigeria have succeed to plug life out of poor Nigerians. The poor cannot breathe again. Let's die and go.

Advice: never give birth when you are not financially strong. Unfortunately, I've learned my lesson the hard way.

5th time's the charm!

Life happens.

How do I help this family better than I am trying?

Wishing you the best in all you do.

Source

Context: 40k naira is ~50 USD

OP is a driver for a farm, earns less than 50 USD/month and has 5 children!

Users Dunk on Him

You are earning low, but your reproduction of living things is high. Imagine, 5kids. Your excuse; 'Children are gifts from God.' You will continue to rant if you don't control your reproductive organ.

You and your wife are mad

If you get a job that pays you 100k, I am sure you will increase the children to 10.. You are productive in bed. I don't have pity for people like you that are insensitive to things happening in the world.

I have zero pity for the likes of you. In fact, even if I had the means to assist, I will NEVER help people like you. Do u know why? I will tell you. It's because some of you have decided not to have sense. Do you think those that gave birth to a child because that's the number they can afford to cater for are fools? I don't know how some of you reason. The hardship you were facing wasn't enough, you choose to drag innocent kids into it. Now, you're running away from your responsibilities. I will tell you the same thing that I always say to 'irresponsible parents'. If you can't train your kids, go and sell them. There will be willing buyers who will help you lessen the burden.

i dont know why youre lamenting. far as i am concerned what youre going through is good for you. what are you doing with such amount of children? you didnt think of economy? you didnt do family planning because you prioritized sexual pleasure and being a sharpshooter instead of living within your means. na you sabi.

I know for sure this can never be true. but if its true, but lets join you to lament. you are the cause we have miscrants in the society. children whose parents are no taking care of them and at that the end sort to robbery and thugery for survival causing nuisance in the society because their parents neglected them. Gone are the days that people will say na God dey give children, uncontrolled sexual appetite gives birth to children when not done properly (protection, family planning) . don't bring children you can not take care of into this world, especially here Nigeria.

Translation yansh = butt; "junior" = peepee

We have said this time and time again. Do not give birth to children you cannot take care of. Nigerians make it seem as if you’re impotent if you have 1 or two kids. Thank God the upcoming generation have learnt from their elders. We will no longer be seeing situations like this in 20 years.

They have? I would not be shocked if all of OP's kids go on to make the same "E go better" mistake as OP abeg! We have seen it happen time and time again to at least be able to predict it so. Na generational thingz e be sef.

Give birth to more kids.. make it 21 children. I don't know what is wrong with you Poor people. A rich man despite how wealthy he is will give birth to just 1 kid only..poor men go dey born children full everywhere

While, as human beings, we are empathetic with your plight…Instead of blaming “Nigeria” perhaps you should’ve put a rubber on it! “Nigeria” didn’t impregnate your wife. Over the past couple of years I have been conducting a sort of informal poll…And, of almost all of the upper-middle and middle class people I know, their driver or gateman or cook has MORE kids than they do. Why do the POOREST people in Nigeria seem to have the MOST kids? Our old maiguard had over 20 kids in the 21st century when everyone knows about condoms (or even the “pull out” method).

#TakeResponsibility!

Nigeria's 200m population is projected to hit 400million by 2050 no thanks to dvmb people like the Op and also by that period, Nigeria crude oil proceeds will reduce heavily owning to the massive usage of electric vehicles in EU and North America. A period of super-massive population explosion with lower GDP will mean heck on earth in Nigeria. Hyper crime rates with excruciating hunger and poverty... It's just 27yrs from now. The govt in Nigeria should as a matter of urgency implement 2child policy in the country. Persons like the Op should be arrested and castrated if possible because an arm robber that will kill and terrorize our towns and villages in 10 yrs time maybe be traced to what the op did today.

Some one said "the enjoyment of a poor man is s*x"

fck this country man i swear nigeria issa heck on earth

Wallah brudi

The only question I will ask is why 5kids na??Even many GMDs, CEOs with much money don't have such kids , bros I pray you get what will upgrade you financially because even me as a single guy that receive much more than that I'm scared of getting married due to how things are in nigeria to be honest. Bros you gallant wallahi I CAP.

Some Helpful Advice

You need to stop reproduction, do family planning with your wife. Put your children in public schools and you monitor their studies, check their books from time to time educate them of good behavior and the kind of friends they should have. Your wife has to be working so that she can support you in the house and no relative should be allowed to live with you for now, they can go elsewhere. When you want to buy food, buy in bulk when you get to market you will see other people contributing money together to buy in bag and share, this will also save you money and look for better job. It shall be well with you and your family.

try open a small petty business for ur wife and kids. Any type of business.

Blessed are the poor, for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven. God is hugely invested in the poor and provides light in darkness for us. Pray to the most high, hold him to your word for light and sustenance. If he looks after the sparrow, then we are much more important. God for us all

How can one be living in 1room and born 5 children, ha ba!, Animals self can't do it talkless of a human being

Bros you are not a serious person,. You have a family of 8 and u are comfortable waking up and going to earn 40k every month. You are your own problem, your mindset has already limited you. Break free from the bondage you put urself and go explore. What are u doin wt 40k monthly ? You don't have the spirit for struggle but you have the spirit to struggle when it comes to s*x. If you are in Lagos enter computer village or you enter ladipo or alaba mkt or go and do middle man work , those guys earn something up to that your monthly salary in one day. Go and get keke maruwa on higher purchase,If you have sense you would have learnt a skill . Go and learn how repair a generator , car, learn barbing of hair Oga you are not a serious person. In the meantime take life things jejely, ur family still needs you. You still have enough time to do this things and turn things around for yourself and ur family

But how does your preek rise on top hunger to the point of impregnating a woman 5 times. You must be a drunkard that goes home after so much frustration and highness to force your wife for s*x without your right senses. Even your wife that opens leg to collect on top poverty no dey try. If she had starved you of s*x after two kids maybe you would have hustled well to make something good for the little family. But shooting up to five when you dey no dey work for oil company or you no be politician I no come under.

I understand your predicament OP. It really can be frustrating when you're in this kind of situation. You took the best step by speaking up though. The way forward for you, right now would be to find a solution to your problem. I'm a student and I earn passively by publishing on Amazon. If you're interested, you can start up and begin earning too. At least you'll be earning in dollars and that would remove a whole lot of financial strain off you. If you're interested, you can send a dm. It's well with you and your family

Infighting

Anyways I got tired of laughing and started feeling depressed because we are in the same country and have the same voting rights

You can advise him here but if he didn't learn after 5 kids I don't think he's gonna learn